Boundaries is the book that's helped over 4 million people learn when to say yes and know how to say no in order to take control of their lives.Does your life feel like it's out of control? Perhaps you feel like you have to say yes to everyone's requests. Maybe you find yourself readily taking responsibility for others' feelings and problems. Or perhaps you focus so much on being loving and unselfish that you've forgotten your own limits and limitations. Or maybe it's all of the above.In the New York Times bestseller, Boundaries, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend help you learn when to say yes and know how to say no in order to take control of your life and set healthy, biblical boundaries with your spouse, children, friends, parents, co-workers, and even yourself.Now updated and expanded for the digital age, this book continues to help millions of people around the world answer these tough questions: Can I set limits and still be a loving person? What are legitimate boundaries? How do I effectively manage my digital life so that it doesn't control me? What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries? How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money? Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries? How do boundaries relate to mutual submission within marriage? Aren’t boundaries selfish?You don’t have to let your life spiral out of control. Discover how boundaries make life better today!Plus, check out Boundaries family collection of books dedicated to key areas of life - dating, marriage, raising kids, parenting teens, and leadership. Workbooks and Spanish editions are also available.

For those of us who have walked away from a conversation, meeting, or visit feeling violated and not understanding why, this book helps us recognize and set healthy boundaries.Boundaries bring order to our lives, strengthen our relationships with others and ourselves, and are essential to our mental and physical health. For those of us who have walked away from a conversation, meeting, or visit feeling violated and not understanding why, this book helps us recognize and set healthy boundaries. Real-life stories illustrate the ill effects of not setting limits and the benefits gained by respecting our own boundaries and those of others.

The instant New York Times bestsellerEnd the struggle, speak up for what you need, and experience the freedom of being truly yourself.Healthy boundaries. We all know we should have them--in order to achieve work/life balance, cope with toxic people, and enjoy rewarding relationships with partners, friends, and family. But what do "healthy boundaries" really mean--and how can we successfully express our needs, say "no," and be assertive without offending others?Licensed counselor, sought-after relationship expert, and one of the most influential therapists on Instagram Nedra Glover Tawwab demystifies this complex topic for today's world. In a relatable and inclusive tone, Set Boundaries, Find Peace presents simple-yet-powerful ways to establish healthy boundaries in all aspects of life. Rooted in the latest research and best practices used in cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), these techniques help us identify and express our needs clearly and without apology--and unravel a root problem behind codependency, power struggles, anxiety, depression, burnout, and more.

Set The Limits That Will Set You Free. From The Beloved Co-founder Of The Whole30, This Straightforward And Practical Guide To Setting Boundaries Will Revolutionize Your Relationships. Do Your Relationships Often Feel One-sided Or Unbalanced? Are You Always Giving In Just So Things Will Go Smoothly? Do You Wish You Could Learn To Say No--but, Like, Nicely? Are You Depleted, Overwhelmed, And Tired Of Putting Everyone Else's Needs Ahead Of Your Own? If You Answered Yes To Any Of These Questions, You Need To Establish Some Boundaries. Since Launching The Mega-bestselling Wellness Program The Whole30, Melissa Urban Has Taught Millions Of People How To Establish Healthy Habits And Successfully Navigate Pushback And Peer Pressure. She Knows Firsthand That Boundaries--clear Limits You Establish To Protect Your Energy, Time, And Health--are All That Stand Between You And Feelings Of Security, Confidence, And Freedom. Now, In The Book Of Boundaries, She Shows You How Boundaries Are The Key To Better Mental Health, Increased Energy, Improved Productivity, And More Fulfilling Relationships. In Her Famously Direct And Compassionate Style, Urban Offers: * 130+ Scripts With Language You Can Use To Instantly Establish Boundaries With Bosses And Co-workers, Romantic Partners, Parents And In-laws, Co-parents, Friends, Family, Neighbors, Strangers--and Yourself * Actionable Advice To Help You Communicate Your Needs With Clarity And Compassion * Tips For Successfully Navigating Boundary Guilt, Pushback, Pressure, And Oversteps * Techniques To Create Healthy Habits Around Food, Drink, Technology, And More User-friendly And Approachable, The Book Of Boundaries Will Give You The Tools You Need To Stop Justifying, Minimizing, And Apologizing, Leading You To More Rewarding Relationships And A Life That Feels Bigger, Healthier, And Freer.

Finally…Hope for Parents in Pain What parent doesn’t want their children to grow up to be happy, responsible adults? Yet despite parents’ best efforts, most heartfelt prayers, and most loving environments, some kids never successfully make the transition to independently functioning adulthood. Following her own journey, Allison Bottke developed a tough-love approach to parenting adult children that helps both you and your child by focusing on setting you free from the repeated pain of your adult child’s broken promises, lies, and deception.Setting Boundaries® with Your Adult Children offers practical hope and healing through S.A.N.I.T.Y.—a six–step program to help parents regain control in their homes and their lives.\n\nS = STOP Enabling, STOP Blaming Yourself, and STOP the Flow of Money\nA = Assemble a Support Group\nN = Nip Excuses in the Bud\nI = Implement Rules/Boundaries\nT = Trust Your Instincts\nY = Yield Everything to God\n\nAs you love your child with arms and heart wide open, know that no matter what happens you are never alone. God is in control and will be with you.

THE NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER\\nEnd the struggle, speak up for what you need, and experience the freedom of being truly yourself.\\nHealthy boundaries. We all know we should have them in order to achieve work/life balance, cope with toxic people, and enjoy rewarding relationships with partners, friends, and family. But what do "healthy boundaries" really mean - and how can we successfully express our needs, say "no," and be assertive without offending others?\\nLicensed counselor, sought-after relationship expert, and one of the most influential therapists on Instagram Nedra Glover Tawwab demystifies this complex topic for today's world. In a relatable and inclusive tone, Set Boundaries, Find Peace presents simple-yet-powerful ways to establish healthy boundaries in all aspects of life. Rooted in the latest research and best practices used in cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), these techniques help us identify and express our needs clearly and without apology - and unravel a root problem behind codependency, power struggles, anxiety, depression, burnout, and more.

Too many of us have invested ourselves into relationships where things have gone wrong. You may have experienced being judged, manipulated controlled, or worse. The impact of being with an unsafe person can be damaging to your confidence, your trust in others, and even your health. And what's more, we either repeat the same mistakes of judgment over and over, or else simply give up on trying to have great, authentic relationships again. We get busy instead.\nWhy do we choose the wrong people to get involved with? Is it possible to change? And if so, where does one begin?\nDrs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend offer solid guidance for making safe choices in relationships, from family to friendship, romance and work. They help identify the healthy and growing people we all need in our lives, as well as ones we need to learn to avoid. Safe People will help you to recognize twenty traits of relationally untrustworthy people and discover what makes some people relationally safe, as well as how to avoid unhealthy entanglements. You'll learn about things within yourself that jeopardize your relational security, and you'll find out how to develop a balanced approach to relationships.

How I treat you, how I let you treat me, and how I treat myself. You can open a whole new way of successfully dealing with life's challenges by answering the questions and acting on the information that you learn in each chapter of Boundary Power. You can take charge of your life, strengthen your character, expand your freedom, improve your marriage, and other personal relationships by learning by how to set personal boundaries in your life. The book includes: - clear definition of all boundaries as they relate to you relationally, spiritually, physically, sexually and emotionally - where you learn boundaries, the different kinds of boundaries, and the types of people with boundary problems - key questions to help you discover your own boundary problems - exercises that will help you resolve loses associated with abuses - exercises that will help you set clear healthy boundaries in all your relationships

An accessible, step-by-step resource for setting, communicating, and enforcing healthy boundaries at home, at work, and in life We all want to have healthy boundaries. But what does that really mean - and what steps are needed to implement them in our daily lives? Sought-after therapist and relationship expert Nedra Glover Tawwab presents clear explanations and interactive exercises to help you gain insight and then put it into action. Filled with thought-provoking checklists, questions, writing prompts, and more, The Set Boundaries Workbook is a valuable tool for everyone who wants to speak up for what they want and need, and show up more authentically in the world.  

You can turn your shame to joy, your anger to advocacy, and your inner critic into your biggest champion. Do your emotions control you or do you control your emotions? Many people let guilt, anger, or self-criticism dominate their lives and negatively affect their relationships. Boundaries for Your Soul shows you how to calm the chaos within. This groundbreaking approach will help you:\nknow what to do when you feel overwhelmed,\nunderstand your guilt, anxiety, sadness, and fear,\nwelcome God into the troubling parts of your soul,\nand move from doubt and conflict to confidence and peace.\n\nBoundaries for Your Soul includes relatable anecdotes, helpful exercises, an engaging quiz, and opportunities for personal reflection. Gathering the wisdom from the authors' twenty-five years of combined advanced education, biblical studies, and clinical practice, this book will set you on a journey to become the loving, authentic, joyful person you were created to be.

It stinks, doesn’t it. But what can you do to fix it? More than you’ve ever imagined. You can put an end to the datelessness. Starting today—right now—you can begin a journey that will bring fun and interesting people into your life, broaden your experience of others and yourself, and lead you toward that date of all dates—a date worth keeping. This book is for YOU if · You want to get more dates or better dates. · You wonder where “the good ones” are. · You keep repeating the same old cycle in your dating life and want to change it. · You wonder why people who aren’t as nice as you get all the dates. · You’re attracted to the wrong kind, while the right kind lack the “chemistry.” · You’re waiting for God to bring you the right person—and you’ve been waiting an awfully long time. · You wonder what it is about you that fails to attract dates. With over ten years of experience personally coaching singles on dating, Dr. Henry Cloud shares his proven, very doable, step-by-step approach to overcoming your sticking points and getting all the dates you could want. The results speak for themselves. Filled with true-life examples you’ll identify with instantly, How to Get a Date Worth Keeping will prove its worth to you many times over in the exciting months ahead.

Do your clients give to others at the expense of their own emotional, physical, and mental well-being?\nWritten by licensed therapist and NYT bestselling author Nedra Glover Tawwab, The Boundaries Flip Chart is a must-have tool for any mental health clinician seeking to help their clients identify, set, and maintain healthy boundaries.\nIdeal for clients who struggle with codependency, poor communication, and unfulfilling relationships, the chart includes conversation starters, exercises, and checklists that extend far beyond “how to say no.” The chart’s engaging and easy-to-use nature makes it ideal for helping clients to: Develop a working definition of what boundaries mean in their life Explore their boundaries in six key areas: physical, sexual, intellectual, emotional, material, and time Set and maintain boundaries with family members, friends, coworkers, and themselves Cope with the inevitable discomfort of setting new boundaries Manage inevitable boundary violations when they occur And more!\nInside you will find: 23 full-color, interactive client-facing pages Additional explanations and sample scripts on each corresponding therapist-facing page Dry-erase client pages for easy markup, customization, and reuse

Are Your Boundaries Being Violated? Boundaries separate us from others physically and emotionally. In fact, they are essential for our mental and physical health as well as for developing healthy relationships. Yet every day, people's boundaries are violated by friends, family, or coworkers. Despite the importance of personal boundaries many people are unaware of how or when these very important lines are crossed. Which of the following are boundary violations?Esther tells Betty a secret Mary told her. Your therapist invites you to go for coffee. Your boss wants to know the details of your personal life. Your boss asks you if you'd like a hug. Mom tells little Debbie about her troubles with Dad. Your new neighbor pats you on the bottom as he turns away. Your mother makes a comment about your being overweight. All but one of the above incidents violate boundaries (your boss asks you if you'd like a hug). In Boundaries: Where You End and I Begin, Anne Katherine explains what healthy boundaries are, how to recognize if your personal boundaries are being violated, and what you can do to protect yourself. For anyone who has walked away from a conversation, a meeting, or a visit with others feeling violated and not understanding why, this is a book that can help.

The #1 bestseller that has helped heal millions of readers, this modern classic holds the key to understanding codependency and unlocking its hold on your life.Melody Beattie’s compassionate and insightful look into codependency—the concept of losing oneself in the name of helping another—has helped millions of readers understand that they are powerless to change anyone but themselves and that caring for the self is where healing begins.Is someone else’s problem your problem? If, like so many others, you’ve lost sight of your own life in the drama of tending to a loved one’s self-destructive behavior, you may be codependent—and you may find yourself in this book. With instructive life stories, personal reflections, exercises, and self-tests, Codependent No More helps you to break old patterns, maintain healthy boundaries, and say no to unhealthy relationships. It offers a clear and achievable path to freedom and a lifetime of healing, hope, and happiness.This groundbreaking book is even more relevant today, as readers confront new, urgent challenges with greater self-awareness, than it was when it first entered the national conversation over thirty-five years ago.

Learn when to say yes and when to say no to your spouse to make the most of your marriage.\nOnly when you and your mate know and respect each other's needs, choices, and freedom can you give yourselves freely and lovingly to one another.\nBoundaries are the "property lines" that define and protect husbands and wives as individuals. Once they are in place, a good marriage can become better, and a less-than-satisfying one can even be saved.\nDrs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend, counselors and authors of the award-winning bestseller Boundaries, show couples how to apply the 10 laws of boundaries that can make a real difference in relationships. They help husbands and wives understand the friction points or serious hurts and betrayals in their marriage - and move beyond them to the mutual care, respect, affirmation, and intimacy they both long for.\nBoundaries in Marriage will help you:\n\nSet and maintain personal boundaries and respect those of their spouse\nEstablish values that form a godly structure and architecture for their marriage\nProtect their marriage from different kinds of "intruders"\nWork with a spouse who understands and values boundaries - or work with one who doesn't\n\nYou don't have to let your marriage head toward separation or divorce. Discover how boundaries make life better today!\nPlus, check out Boundaries family collection of books dedicated to key areas of life - dating, raising kids, parenting teens, and leadership. Workbooks and Spanish editions are also available.

Bestselling author Harriet Lerner focuses on the challenge and the importance of being able to express one's "authentic voice" in intimate relationships. The key problem in relationships, particularly over time, is that people begin to lose their voice. Despite decades of assertiveness training and lots of good advice about communicating with clarity, timing, and tact, women and men find that their greatest complaints in marriage and other intimate relationships are that they are not being heard, that they cannot affect the other person, that fights go nowhere, that conflict brings only pain. Although an intimate, long-term relationship offers the greatest possibilities for knowing the other person and being known, these relationships are also fertile ground for silence and frustration when it comes to articulating a true self. And yet giving voice to this self is at the center of having both a relationship and a self. Much as she did in THE MOTHER DANCE, Lerner will approach this rich subject with tales from her personal life and clinical work, inspiring and teaching readers to speak their own truths to the most important people in their lives.

New York Times best-selling author Jen Sincero gets to the core of transformation: habits - breaking, making, understanding, and sticking with them like you've never stuck before.Badass Habits is a eureka-sparking, easy-to-digest look at how our habits make us who we are, from the measly moments that happen in private to the resolutions we loudly broadcast (and, erm, often don't keep) on social media.Habit busting and building goes way beyond becoming a dedicated flosser or never showing up late again--our habits reveal our unmet desires, the gaps in our boundaries, our level of self-awareness, and our unconscious beliefs and fears. Badass Habits features Jen's trademark hilarious voice and offers a much-needed fresh take on the conventional wisdom and science that shape the optimism (or pessimism?) around the age-old topic of habits.The book includes enlightening interviews with people who've successfully strengthened their discipline backbones, new perspective on how to train our brains to become our best selves, and offers a simple, 21 day, step-by-step guide for ditching habits that don't serve us and developing the habits we deem most important.Habits shouldn't be impossible to reset--and with healthy boundaries, knowledge of--and permission to go after--our desires, and an easy to implement plan of action, we can make any new goal a joyful habit.

The #1 New York Times bestseller. More than 2 million copies sold!Look for Brené Brown’s new podcast, Dare to Lead, as well as her ongoing podcast Unlocking Us!From thought leader Brené Brown, a transformative new vision for the way we lead, love, work, parent, and educate that teaches us the power of vulnerability.“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; . . . who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.”—Theodore RooseveltEvery day we experience the uncertainty, risks, and emotional exposure that define what it means to be vulnerable or to dare greatly. Based on twelve years of pioneering research, Brené Brown PhD, MSW, dispels the cultural myth that vulnerability is weakness and argues that it is, in truth, our most accurate measure of courage.Brown explains how vulnerability is both the core of difficult emotions like fear, grief, and disappointment, and the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, empathy, innovation, and creativity. She writes: “When we shut ourselves off from vulnerability, we distance ourselves from the experiences that bring purpose and meaning to our lives.”Daring Greatly is not about winning or losing. It’s about courage. In a world where “never enough” dominates and feeling afraid has become second nature, vulnerability is subversive. Uncomfortable. It’s even a little dangerous at times. And, without question, putting ourselves out there means there’s a far greater risk of getting criticized or feeling hurt. But when we step back and examine our lives, we will find that nothing is as uncomfortable, dangerous, and hurtful as standing on the outside of our lives looking in and wondering what it would be like if we had the courage to step into the arena—whether it’s a new relationship, an important meeting, the creative process, or a difficult family conversation. Daring Greatly is a practice and a powerful new vision for letting ourselves be seen.

“If you’re hesitant to pull the trigger when things obviously aren't working out, Henry Cloud’s Necessary Endings may be the most important book you read all year.” —Dave Ramsey, New York Times bestselling author of The Total Money Makeover“Cloud is a wise, experienced, and compassionate guide through [life’s] turbulent passages.” —Bob Buford, bestelling author of Halftime and Finishing Well; founder of the Leadership Network Henry Cloud, the bestselling author of Integrity and The One-Life Solution, offers this mindset-altering method for proactively correcting the bad and the broken in our businesses and our lives. Cloud challenges readers to achieve the personal and professional growth they both desire and deserve—and gives crucial insight on how to make those tough decisions that are standing in the way of a more successful business and, ultimately, a better life.

NOW IN PAPERBACK: Turn your sensitivity into a superpower with these proven strategies to regain your confidence at work, reclaim control of your life, and reach your full potential. Are you a sensitive striver? Often feel "not good enough?" Take things too personally? Judge yourself harshly? Struggle with burnout and setting boundaries? Highly sensitive and high performing? Being highly attuned to your emotions, environment, and the behavior of others can be the keys to success, but they can also lead to overthinking everything and burnout. Human behavior expert and executive coach Melody Wilding identifies this problem and gives the nuanced reader profile a name--"sensitive strivers." Drawing on the latest research and work with clients, she examines the intersection of sensitivity and achievement and the challenges that come along with it in the workplace, and offers neuroscience-based strategies readers can use to reclaim control of their lives and reach their full potential. FOR READERS OF: The Highly Sensitive Person, No Hard Feelings, Quiet, and Introvert Power. ENDORSEMENTS FROM: Susan Cain, Elaine Aron, Julia Cameron, and more. EXPERT TAKE ON A NEWLY TRENDING TOPIC: What Susan Cain and Quiet were for introverts, and Elaine Aron and her books were for the highly sensitive, Melody Wilding is and will be for the growing number of people who identify as sensitive strivers. As a human behavior expert, executive coach, and Forbes contributor, Wilding is the perfect author to offer practical solutions for the latest embraced personality type. Her advice strikes the perfect balance between action-taking and introspective. The perfect book for: * Coaches and coaching clients * Social workers * Entry-level workers, middle managers, executive level and above * Anyone who identifies as highly sensitive

The MANipulator Manual: Keep Your Man Interested and Begging for More Without Playing GamesLet me start off by explaining I am in no way talking about the sexual act. F*ck him in this case is not physical, it’s mental.So many women get in trouble in their love lives, and 99.9 percent of that trouble could have been avoided if they’d said, “Well, f*ck him!” a bit more often. Too many women are way too nice and compliant to their men, especially when these men don’t deserve that kind of treatment.And yet, every woman I’ve ever met tries to not be needy or wear her heart on her sleeve. She simply wants to protect her feelings. Nevertheless, most women I’ve coached have had men seem very interested only to disappear suddenly. These women are left standing in the dark. Once the guy vanishes, they often find out it’s easier to get the President of the United States on the phone than the man who seemingly really liked them...just not enough to stick around.This should stop.I, as a dating coach and author of books for women who want to get men, cannot take it anymore. You deserve better. This is not your fault. It’s his! He needs to learn to be much more transparent and upfront. That said, we both know most men won’t change. We can lead a horse to water, but we can’t make it drink. Or can we? What if there was a way to change a guy’s behavior? What if you could get into his head and take over the driver’s wheel? What if you could make him do more of the things that you appreciate and need and less of the bad behaviors you dislike? At first, this might seem impossible. Nevertheless, I’m sure you’ve already met women who are good at manipulating their men.Enter the high-value woman. You know her. You’ve seen her. She’s the woman who always has great men drooling over her. It’s the woman you see getting all the attention. You often wonder, “How does she do it? What do they see in her? What does she know that I don’t?”You might have even complained to your girlfriends that men just don’t seem to notice what a catch you are. Your girlfriends may have even said, “He doesn’t know what he’s missing.” What if you could make him see it?When you look at these high-value women who get their way with men, it might have surprised you that their looks don’t seem to matter. The high-value woman can be great looking, average looking, or even bad looking. It doesn’t matter. She knows her way around men. She knows how to mentally f*ck them.Are you ready to implement her strategies?You’ll see behavior you’ve never seen from him. He’ll start to put in an effort that makes you feel like you’re a queen because to him, you are. At first, it will be strange. If you’ve never truly been in control of a man, it might feel like riding a horse for the first time. But soon, it will make you feel all tingly inside.I’m not kidding.There’s nothing more powerful than being in a relationship with a guy and having him do exactly what you want while he thinks it was his idea. (This is important, as you’ll see. He needs to think he is the one in the driver’s seat, even though you actually are.)This book is not about becoming someone you’re not or turning your boyfriend into a spineless manslave. It’s about your empowerment, about taking back what’s yours. No man should ever be able to play games with you, to take you for granted, to treat you even a tiny bit less than you deserve. By the time you’ve finished this book, this will all be part of your past.Are you ready? Then hit the buy button at the top of this page and start your high value woman journey right away!

Do you have trouble saying "no," or constantly sacrifice your own needs to please others? If so, this evidence-based workbook will help you set healthy boundaries in all aspects of your life--without feeling guilty or afraid. If you find yourself feeling responsible for others' happiness, worrying about letting people down, or struggling to speak up for yourself, you probably have difficulty setting healthy boundaries. Establishing clear personal boundaries is essential to creating and nurturing mutually respectful relationships based on equality. Setting limits can also protect you from getting involved in exploitative relationships, and help you avoid toxic personalities who don't have your best interests at heart. This evidence-based workbook will show you how to set healthy boundaries across all aspects of life--without sacrificing your kindness or compassion for others. You'll learn to define your boundaries and discover why they're so important for your emotional well-being. You'll also find a wealth of tips for maintaining boundaries in a "constantly-connected" world, strategies for what to do when people get upset or threatened by your assertiveness, and ways to make sure your needs are met. If you're tired of feeling guilty or afraid of putting your mental and physical health first, are ready to take back control of your life, and create healthy and balanced relationships, this book will show you how to step up and set limits, assert yourself confidently, and realize your full potential.

Como el Dr.Wayne Dyer te mostrará, no existe una poción mágica para conseguir lo que quieres de la vida. Todo lo que podrías querer o necesitar se encuentra dentro de ti: simplemente tienes que reformular tu manera de pensar. Sean cuales sean tus circunstancias actuales, tienes el poder de superarlas. Este libro te mostrará el impacto de tus actitudes, elecciones y expectativas, y te conducirá a una sensación de mayor poder personal. Te ayudará a reconocer que probablemente tienes mucho más éxito de lo que crees, independientemente de las dificultades que estés afrontando. E iluminará la importancia de tu misión personal. También incluye preguntas y ejercicios específicos para ayudarte a trazar el camino hacia la vida de tus sueños. En el proceso descubrirás que ya tienes en ti las semillas de la grandeza, que te llevarán a la verdadera felicidad. “Cuando cambias la manera de mirar las cosas, las cosas a las que miras cambian.” “Lo que tenemos que hacer para entender este asunto del amor a uno mismo y la autoaceptación es captar la noción de para qué estamos aquí. Lo que haces es algo que te encuentra a ti, no es algo que tú encuentras.”Wayne W. Dyer

Amy Alkon presents Unf*ckology, a “science-help” book that knocks the self-help genre on its unscientific ass. You can finally stop fear from being your boss and put an end to your lifelong social suckage.Have you spent your life shrinking from opportunities you were dying to seize but feel “that’s just who I am”? Well, screw that! You actually can change, and it doesn’t take exceptional intelligence or a therapist who’s looking forward to finally buying Aruba after decades of listening to you yammer on.Transforming yourself takes revolutionary science-help from Amy Alkon, who has spent the past 20 years translating cutting-edge behavioral science into highly practical advice in her award-winning syndicated column. In Unf*ckology, Alkon pulls together findings from neuroscience, behavioral science, evolutionary psychology, and clinical psychology. She explains everything in language you won’t need a psych prof on speed-dial to understand―and with the biting dark humor that made Good Manners for Nice People Who Sometimes Say F*ck such a great read. She debunks widely-accepted but scientifically unsupported notions about self-esteem, shame, willpower, and more and demonstrates that:- Thinking your way into changing (as so many therapists and self-help books advise) is the most inefficient way to go about it.- The mind is bigger than the brain, meaning that your body and your behavior are your gym for turning yourself into the new, confident you.- Fear is not just the problem; it’s also the solution.- By targeting your fears with behavior, you make changes in your brain that reshape your habitual ways of behaving and the emotions that go with them.Follow Amy Alkon's groundbreaking advice in Unf*ckology, and eventually, you’ll no longer need to act like the new you; you’ll become the new you. And how totally f*cking cool is that?