#1 New York Times bestseller“Essential reading for anyone interested in understanding and treating traumatic stress and the scope of its impact on society.” —Alexander McFarlane, Director of the Centre for Traumatic Stress StudiesA pioneering researcher transforms our understanding of trauma and offers a bold new paradigm for healing in this New York Times bestsellerTrauma is a fact of life. Veterans and their families deal with the painful aftermath of combat; one in five Americans has been molested; one in four grew up with alcoholics; one in three couples have engaged in physical violence. Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, one of the world’s foremost experts on trauma, has spent over three decades working with survivors. In The Body Keeps the Score, he uses recent scientific advances to show how trauma literally reshapes both body and brain, compromising sufferers’ capacities for pleasure, engagement, self-control, and trust. He explores innovative treatments—from neurofeedback and meditation to sports, drama, and yoga—that offer new paths to recovery by activating the brain’s natural neuroplasticity. Based on Dr. van der Kolk’s own research and that of other leading specialists, The Body Keeps the Score exposes the tremendous power of our relationships both to hurt and to heal—and offers new hope for reclaiming lives.

Each day we face a barrage of images and messages from society and the media telling us who, what, and how we should be. We are led to believe that if we could only look perfect and lead perfect lives, we'd no longer feel inadequate. So most of us perform, please, and perfect, all the while thinking, What if I can't keep all of these balls in the air? Why isn't everyone else working harder and living up to my expectations? What will people think if I fail or give up? When can I stop proving myself?In The Gifts of Imperfection, Brené Brown, PhD, a leading expert on shame, authenticity and belonging, shares what she's learned from a decade of research on the power of Wholehearted Living--a way of engaging with the world from a place of worthiness.In her ten guideposts, Brown engages our minds, hearts, and spirits as she explores how we can cultivate the courage, compassion, and connection to wake up in the morning and think, No matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough, and to go to bed at night thinking, Yes, I am sometimes afraid, but I am also brave. And, yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable, but that doesn't change the truth that I am worthy of love and belonging.

Donna Kaz was 24 years old when she moved to New York City in the fall of 1977 to pursue a career in theatre. She rented a spacious loft apartment on gritty Fifth Avenue in Chelsea and landed a job serving beers and burgers at the classic bar, Jimmy Day's, in Greenwich Village. She was on her way until a tall, blonde, handsome actor sat in her station during a lunch shift. That actor was William Hurt who swept Kaz off her feet and carried her to Hollywood and back for a three-plus year love affair that was both fantastical and physically dangerous. It took Kaz fourteen years to begin to admit she had survived domestic violence. Once she realized the extent of the abuse she had been subjected to she pulled a gorilla mask over her head and became "Aphra Behn," a bad-ass feminist, activist and member of THE GUERRILLA GIRLS.UN/MASKED, Memoirs of a Guerrilla Girl On Tour, follows the unmasked DONNA KAZ, and the masked APHRA BEHN through their often surprising 25 year journey. In a braided narrative that flips between 1977 and 1997, Donna Kaz describes, with an ironic and humorous voice, what it was like go from being on the arm of William Hurt and an insider on the sets of movies like Altered States and Bodyheat, to an anonymous outsider donning a scary gorilla mask to protest sexism at Broadway's Tony Awards. Donna Kaz hobnobs with actress Kathleen Turner and director Lawrence Kasden, while Aphra Behn organizes sticker campaigns focused at the big New York City theatres which produce season after season of only plays by white male playwrights. When the Roundabout Theatre's toilet stalls (in both women's and men's rooms) are plastered with Guerrilla Girls' stickers stating: In this theatre, the taking of photographs, the use of a recording device and the production of plays by women is strictly prohibited - the Roundabout announces their next season will include two plays by women. Aphra and the Guerrilla Girls take all the credit and go on to create comedic art and theater that blasts the blatant sexism of the theater world while proving feminists are funny at the same time.That these two narratives--that of a young victim of domestic violence at the hands of the successful actor, William Hurt, and that of an artist so fed up with sexism in the theater world that she puts on a gorilla mask and takes the name of a dead woman artist to provoke change--have been lived by one woman is remarkable. Donna Kaz offers a very compelling firsthand account--illuminated by more than thirty behind-the-scenes photographs, stickers and posters --of her transition from a silent survivor to an unapologetic activist.After reading UN/MASKED you will be able to adopt the Guerrilla Girls' tactics, from making smart, funny art to wearing fake fur masks, to organizing campaigns that influence change in the art and theatre worlds. You will glean insights into what it is like to be in love with a man who is also your assailant, and how the cycle of violence is an extremely difficult vortex to escape from. You will find inspiration in the story of how Donna Kaz became Aphra Behn and eventually decided to reveal how her early life dictated a path towards feminism and her ultimate decision to go underground and become the feminist masked avenger Guerrilla Girl, Aphra Behn.This debut memoir from Donna Kaz aka Aphra Behn, is a new addition to investigations into abusive relationships and the tradition of feminist narrative nonfiction. It is a memoir of a woman-turned-survivor-turned-radical-feminist who takes off her mask and, by merging her identities, reveals all.

Society of Midland Authors Literary Award Finalist in Biography & MemoirAward-winning journalist Michele Weldon provides a potent antidote to the harried single mom stereotype in this beguiling memoir of raising three sons alone in the face of cancer, an ambitious career, and the shadow of her ex.Untethered from a seemingly idyllic life with a handsome but abusive attorney husband, Weldon relates the challenges and triumphs of the years that followed her divorce as she maneuvers through a complicated life of long daily commutes, radiation treatments, supporting the boys’ all-consuming high school wrestling careers, and trying to mitigate their hurt and resentment at an absent father.By turns humorous and heartbreaking, Weldon describes facing her fears and failures honestly, guided by a belief in the power of staying calm, doing one’s best, and asking for help. She provides a graceful example of how a single mother, and her children, can succeed when others—neighbors, family, teachers, and in this case an incredible high school wrestling coach—step in to fill the void and she can stay the course with common sense and dutiful love.

This book was written as a lifeline for women who are involved with men who lie, cheat, and mistreat their wives or girlfriends. Readers join a support group of four smart, educated women with careers and families who were lied to and devastated by the people who promised to love, honor, and protect them--their husbands. If you are hurting, open this book and turn to a section that meets your needs. You may feel worthless and lost now, but you can become stronger than ever. Liars, Cheats, and Creeps is the next best thing to attending a support group led by an expert in family counseling. This powerful book sheds light on the dark truths some people would like to keep hidden.

At 22, Leslie Morgan Steiner seemed to have it all: good looks, a Harvard diploma, a glamorous job in New York City. Plus a handsome, funny boyfriend who adored her. But behind her façade of success, this golden girl hid a dark secret. She'd made a mistake shared by millions: she fell in love with the wrong person.At first, Leslie and Conor seemed perfect together. Then came the fights she tried to ignore: he pushed her down the stairs, choked her during an argument, and threatened her with a gun. Several times, he came close to making good on his threat to kill her. With each attack, Leslie lost another piece of herself. Why didn't she leave? She stayed because she loved him. Gripping and utterly compelling, Crazy Love takes you inside the violent, devastating world of abusive love and makes you feel the power and powerlessness of abuse that can take place anywhere and to anyone. Crazy Love draws you in -- and never lets you go.

When Michael Clark was arrested for domestic violence and his wife moved out, he saw his world falling apart. He knew this was not the person he aspired to be. He was eager to change, but didn’t know how. Everything he’d tried in the past to control his behavior had fallen short. Part memoir, part how-to, From Villain to Hero is unique among domestic violence and domestic abuse books. Michael’s true story provides readers rare, first-hand insight into a person’s journey from being a violent and abusive partner to becoming a safe and emotionally healthy one. Along the way, he reveals the essential principles needed to stop domestic violence and abuse that he discovered on his transformative path toward healing and change. From Villain to Hero is a must read domestic violence book for men and women motivated to stop hurting the ones they love. And, if you’ve ever wondered why a person commits an act of domestic violence, or what it takes to change that behavior, this book boldly and honestly answers those questions by someone who has been there and done that.

Those who have never experienced an abusive or violent relationship often believe that upon finding a way out, victims’ difficulties are solved: their life is good, they are safe, and recovery will be swift. However, survivors know that leaving is not the end of the nightmare -- it is the beginning of an often difficult and challenging journey toward healing and happiness. It’s My Life Now offers readers the practical guidance, emotional reassurance, and psychological awareness that survivors of relationship abuse and domestic violence need to heal and reclaim their lives after leaving their abusers.Since its publication in 2000, It's My Life Now has been highly successful as a working manual for survivors who are starting their lives over after an abusive relationship. This valuable book combines direction on practical and emotional issues with worksheets and self-exploration exercises. Now, in the second edition, Dugan and Hock include updated information and resources while encompassing a wider range of individuals and the relationships in which abuse and violence occur. The new edition also provides a new emphasis on safety assessment, which has increasingly been shown to be a critical factor in recovery. In addition, this new edition includes current resources and information about organizations for victims along with revised and enhanced strategies to help survivors move forward on the path of recovery.

Lindsay Fischer was once a high school English teacher with dreams stretching far outside the classroom. When her boyfriend of a year and a half cheated on her with a girl named Lacey, Lindsay found herself alone, eventually looking online for his replacement.That's how she met Mike.The House on Sunset is a memoir, a collection of reminiscences, scattering the ashes of a broken home and putting them to rest. Each chapter is a different glimpse into the cycle of domestic violence, where honeymoon phases and traumas coexist.Everyone could fall victim to abusers.

SURVIVING DOMESTIC VIOLENCE tells the stories of twelve women. Each was a victim of domestic violence, escaped from her abuser, reclaimed her dignity, reconstructed her life, and rediscovered peace. Domestic violence doesn’t just happen "out there" somewhere. It happens in our town, in our neighborhood, on our street. It happens to women we see at work, the supermarket, the movie theater, the ballet and the PTA board meeting. Every woman who has left an abusive man—every woman who has yet to leave—will find encouragement and hope in the voices of these women who broke free.

The renowned classic and New York Times bestseller that has transformed the lives of millions of readers, dramatically changing how women and men view relationships.Anger is something we feel. It exists for a reason and always deserves our respect and attention. We all have a right to everything we feel—and certainly our anger is no exception."Anger is a signal and one worth listening to," writes Dr. Harriet Lerner in her renowned classic that has transformed the lives of millions of readers. While anger deserves our attention and respect, women still learn to silence our anger, to deny it entirely, or to vent it in a way that leaves us feeling helpless and powerless. In this engaging and eminently wise book, Dr. Lerner teaches both women and men to identify the true sources of anger and to use it as a powerful vehicle for creating lasting change.For decades, this book has helped millions of readers learn how to turn their anger into a constructive force for reshaping their lives. With a new introduction by the author, The Dance of Anger is ready to lead the next generation.

How traumatic events can break our vital connections―and how to restore love, wholeness, and resiliency in your life.From our earliest years, we develop an attachment style that follows us through life, replaying in our daily emotional landscape, our relationships, and how we feel about ourselves. And in the wake of a traumatic event―such as a car accident, severe illness, loss of a loved one, or experience of abuse―that attachment style can deeply influence what happens next.In The Power of Attachment, Dr. Diane Poole Heller, a pioneer in attachment theory and trauma resolution, shows how overwhelming experiences can disrupt our most important connections― with the parts of ourselves within, with the physical world around us, and with others.The good news is that we can restore and reconnect at all levels, regardless of our past.Here, you’ll learn key insights and practices to help you:• Restore the broken connections caused by trauma• Get embodied and grounded in your body• Integrate the parts of yourself that feel wounded and fragmented• Emerge from grief, fear, and powerlessness to regain strength, joy, and resiliency• Reclaim access to your inner resources and spiritual nature"We are fundamentally designed to heal," teaches Dr. Heller. "Even if our childhood is less than ideal, our secure attachment system is biologically programmed in us, and our job is to simply find out what’s interfering with it―and learn what we can do to make those secure tendencies more dominant."With expertise drawn from Dr. Heller’s research, clinical work, and training programs, this book invites you to begin that journey back to wholeness.

WINNER OF THE HILLMAN PRIZE FOR BOOK JOURNALISM, THE HELEN BERNSTEIN BOOK AWARD, AND THE LUKAS WORK-IN-PROGRESS AWARD * A NEW YORK TIMES TOP 10 BOOKS OF THE YEAR * NATIONAL BOOK CRITICS CIRCLE AWARD FINALIST * LOS ANGELES TIMES BOOK PRIZE FINALIST * ABA SILVER GAVEL AWARD FINALIST * KIRKUS PRIZE FINALISTNAMED ONE OF THE BEST BOOKS OF 2019 BY: Esquire, Amazon, Kirkus, Library Journal, Publishers Weekly, BookPage, BookRiot, Economist, New York Times Staff Critics“A seminal and breathtaking account of why home is the most dangerous place to be a woman . . . A tour de force.” -Eve Ensler"Terrifying, courageous reportage from our internal war zone." -Andrew Solomon"Extraordinary." -New York Times ,“Editors' Choice”“Gut-wrenching, required reading.” -Esquire"Compulsively readable . . . It will save lives." -Washington Post“Essential, devastating reading.” -Cheryl Strayed, New York Times Book ReviewThe book that changed the conversation about domestic violence-an award-winning journalist's intimate investigation of the abuse that happens behind closed doors, now with a new afterword by the author.We call it domestic violence. We call it private violence. Sometimes we call it intimate terrorism. But whatever we call it, we generally do not believe it has anything at all to do with us, despite the World Health Organization deeming it a “global epidemic.” In America, domestic violence accounts for 15 percent of all violent crime, and yet it remains locked in silence, even as its tendrils reach unseen into so many of our most pressing national issues, from our economy to our education system, from mass shootings to mass incarceration to #MeToo. We still have not taken the true measure of this problem.In No Visible Bruises, journalist Rachel Louise Snyder gives context for what we don't know we're seeing. She frames this urgent and immersive account of the scale of domestic violence in our country around key stories that explode the common myths-that if things were bad enough, victims would just leave; that a violent person cannot become nonviolent; that shelter is an adequate response; and most insidiously that violence inside the home is a private matter, sealed from the public sphere and disconnected from other forms of violence. Through the stories of victims, perpetrators, law enforcement, and reform movements from across the country, Snyder explores the real roots of private violence, its far-reaching consequences for society, and what it will take to truly address it.

Decriminalizing Domestic Violence asks the crucial, yet often overlooked, question of why and how the criminal legal system became the primary response to intimate partner violence in the United States. It introduces readers, both new and well versed in the subject, to the ways in which the criminal legal system harms rather than helps those who are subjected to abuse and violence in their homes and communities, and shares how it drives, rather than deters, intimate partner violence. The book examines how social, legal, and financial resources are diverted into a criminal legal apparatus that is often unable to deliver justice or safety to victims or to prevent intimate partner violence in the first place. Envisioned for both courses and research topics in domestic violence, family violence, gender and law, and sociology of law, the book challenges readers to understand intimate partner violence not solely, or even primarily, as a criminal law concern but as an economic, public health, community, and human rights problem. It also argues that only by viewing intimate partner violence through these lenses can we develop a balanced policy agenda for addressing it. At a moment when we are examining our national addiction to punishment, Decriminalizing Domestic Violence offers a thoughtful, pragmatic roadmap to real reform.

Restoring your sense of self after trauma.“In 1981 as a thirteen-year-old child I was given a routine antibiotic for a routine infection and suffered anything but a routine reaction. An undiscovered allergy to the medication turned me into a full-body burn victim almost overnight. By the time I was released from the hospital I had lost 100% of my epidermis. Even more importantly, I had completely lost myself.”Now a professional coach who specializes in helping trauma victims rebuild their lives, Michele Rosenthal struggled with the effects of medically-induced post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) for over 25 years before reaching a full recovery. Today, she is 100% free of symptoms of PTSD. In this book, she applies her personal experience and professional wisdom to offer readers an invaluable roadmap to overcoming their own trauma, in particular the loss of sense of self that often accompanies it.If you suffer from the effects of trauma or PTSD, whether it was caused by a single-incident like a car accident, or from chronic childhood abuse, domestic violence, illness, or war trauma, you are well aware of how disconnected you feel from the person you most deeply wish to be. Trauma interrupts―even hijacks―your identity. To cope, you may rely on mechanisms to keep your emotions, triggers, and responses in check, but these very habits can often prevent the true restoration of safety, stability, and inner connection. How can you rediscover your sense of self so that you honor who you were before the trauma (even if that trauma began at birth), understand who you are at this very moment, and determine who you want to be going forward?Like a therapist in your back pocket, Your Life After Trauma guides you in finding answers to these tough questions. Expertly written by a helping professional who keenly understands the post-trauma identity crisis that is so common among trauma and PTSD sufferers, it is a simple, practical, hands-on recovery workbook. Filled with self-assessment questionnaires, exercises, tips, and tools―not to mention insightful personal and professional vignettes―it takes readers through a step-by-step process of healing the identity crisis, from understanding some of the basic brain science behind trauma and why you feel the way you do, to recognizing who you were (or had the potential to be) before the trauma, who you are today, after the trauma, and who you want to become. With this book by your side, it is possible to regain a sense of calm, confidence, and control on your road to recovery.

Abuse thrives in the silence. Join me on my mission to bring to light the biggest, silent epidemic man has ever known. 29 Brave women and men, including myself, have given us a peek inside the true darkness if their lives lived in domestic violence, and their encouraging battles to escape..

EMAP Participant Workbook is a comprehensive, trauma-informed domestic abuse intervention program. The clinician manual companion is the EMAP Facilitator Guide. Adapted for implementation efficacy, this Second Edition integrates ten years of participant feedback and utilization review.With a strong emphasis on compassion and mindfulness, EMAP is a psychoeducational workbook for domestic violence groups and a self-help guide for high-conflict couples. Accountability is a tool used to strengthen self-esteem and healthy boundaries. Participants learn to identify and override harmful thinking patterns while healing old wounds. Individuals become vulnerable, transparent, and authentic as they develop an internal locus of control through powerful cognitive restructuring techniques. Readers feel grounded and empowered as they learn to slow down through mindfulness training. Throughout the program, this workbook promotes healthy boundaries, assertiveness skills, conflict resolution, emotional intelligence, empathy, and effective parenting. Female groups use Mindful Workbook for Women. For more information on program implementation, go to facebook.com/treatment.program/

Lundy Bancroft expands on his bestseller Why Does He Do That? in this daily guide that empowers women who are suffering in abusive relationships.Even if you’ve read Why Does He Do That?, it may be hard to see the truth of what is happening to you. You may feel overwhelmed by confusion, loss, and fear, and find yourself looking away from the truth and falling back into traumatic patterns.What you need is something that is there for you every day—to help you make a long series of little changes that will ultimately add up to a big one.Like a constant friend, this collection of meditations is a source of strength and reassurance designed to speak to women like you, women in relationships with angry and controlling men. It is a tool you can use to learn how to value and respect yourself—even when your partner makes it very clear that he does not.With seven themes designed to encourage and inspire, Daily Wisdom for Why Does He Do That? will help you digest what is happening one day at a time, so that you can gain clarity, safety, and freedom.You will see the truth in your destructive relationship.You and your children will survive.And—with these encouragements—even tomorrow will be a better day than today.

The author describes her nine-year marriage to an abusive husband and the difficulty of raising three sons alone

From the author of Whole Again comes a significantly expanded edition of Psychopath Free—containing new chapters, updated content, and real survivor experiences—that will help you recover from emotionally abusive relationships with narcissists, sociopaths, and other toxic people.Have you ever been in a relationship with a psychopath? Chances are, even if you did, you would never know it. Psychopaths are cunning charmers and master manipulators, to the point where you start to accept the most extreme behaviors as normal...Even if it hurts you.All around us, every single day, human beings devoid of empathy are wreaking havoc and destroying lives in the coldest, most heartless ways imaginable. In constant pursuit of money, sex, influence, or simple entertainment, psychopaths will do whatever it takes to gain power over others. They hide behind a veil of normalcy, arranging their friends and partners like pawns in a game of chess.Using false praise and flattery to get what they want, they can lure any unsuspecting target into a relationship. Once hooked, their charming promises spin into mind games and psychological torture. Victims are left devastated and confused, unable to recognize—or even put into words—the nightmare that just took place.Written from the heart, Psychopath Free is the first guide for survivors written by a survivor, offering hope for healing and thriving after psychopathic abuse. Say goodbye to the chaos, self-doubt, and victimization. You are free.

April Hernandez-Castillo is a committed and fierce activist in raising awareness about Intimate Partner and Teen dating violence. Your Voice, Your Choice is her candid first-person experience with Intimate Partner Violence. She opens up and shares her story in the hope of empowering others to speak up (or to leave) before it's too late. Your Voice, Your Choice goes back to the beginning and leads the reader through April’s life, tells about her positive upbringing in a Puerto Rican household nestled in the heart of the Bronx, and emphasizes the reliability of that inner voice everyone has. As the reader learns what defined April’s voice, they are also asked to dive deep into themselves and decide what it is that is defining their own. It’s their choice.

An essential guide for ending the cycle of resentment, pain, and abuse and developing a loving relationshipAre you the victim of a chronic anger, verbal or emotional abuse? Do you constantly second-guess your thoughts and behavior to avoid being hurt or put down by your husband or boyfriend? If you are among the one out of three women trapped in a hurtful relationship, you can end the abuse and rebuild a loving, compassionate environment for you and your family.In Love Without Hurt, psychotherapist Dr. Steven Stosny explains the many forms of verbally and emotionally abusive relationships so you can identify abuse and why it's so important to take action to change your relationship-especially because, if you have children, they have become innocent victims of the same abuse. Drawing from the revolutionary techniques of his CompassionPower "boot camp," this practical program shows you self-healing techniques to help you recover from the pain and abuse, as well as methods for your partner to rewire his anger, resentment, and abusive behavior.Love Without Hurt is an essential guide for ending the cycle of resentment, pain, and abuse and developing a loving relationship.

In*vin*ci*ble: incapable of being overcome"When you grow up living with domestic violence, witnessing those you love tear each other down with physical & verbal blows, your brain doesn't know how to deal with that."- ForwardThe NFL and the Ray Rice case has shined a light on domestic violence, but what about those who grow up living with domestic violence?According to UNICEF, growing up with domestic violence is one of the most pervasive human rights violations in the world, affecting more than a billion people. Yet, too few people are aware of the profound impact it can have. This is an opportunity to change that.Invincible seeks to change this lack of awareness and understanding with a compelling look at this important issue, informing and inspiring anyone who grew up living with domestic violence--and those who love them, work with them, teach them, and mentor them.Through powerful first-person stories, including the author's own experiences, as well as insightful commentary based on the most recent social science and psychology research, Invincible not only offers a deeper understanding of the concerns and challenges of domestic violence, but also provides proven strategies everyone can use to reclaim their lives and futures.What did you learn growing up with domestic violence? Do you know how this has had an impact on your life? How have you dealt with it?Today, are there certain things about yourself that you wish weren't true? Many of them aren't. They are lies you learned.Invincible exposes the lies, reveals the truths, and offers the insight and the skills you need to go from feeling and acting:Guilty to FreeResentful to CompassionateSad to GratefulAngry to PassionateHopeless to GuidedWorthless to AccomplishedFearful to ConfidentSelf-Conscious to AttractiveUnloved to LovedThe truth is, no obstacle you will ever face can compare to what you went through as a child and have already conquered. The author is donating all net royalties to the Children of Domestic Violence Foundation (CDV).

Written by a therapist who specializes in abusive men, this guide reveals how abusers interact with and manipulate children—and how mothers can help their children recover from the trauma of witnessing abuse.Can my partner abuse me and still be a good parent? Should I stay with my partner for my children's sake? How should I talk to my children about the abuse and help them heal? Am I a bad mother?Mothers in physically or emotionally abusive relationships ask themselves these questions every day. Whether it’s physical or “just” emotional abuse, whether it’s aimed at them or you, whether they see or hear it, your kids need you.This book, the first ever of its kind, shows mothers how to:• Protect children and help them heal emotionally• Provide love, support, and positive role models, even in the midst of abuse• Increase their chances of winning custody• Help their kids feel good about themselves“A must-read for every mother who has been abused...it offers the knowledge women need to protect their children and help them heal.”—William S. Pollack, Ph.D., author of the national bestseller Real Boys

What kind of man deliberately hurts the woman he loves? Drawing on his pathbreaking studies of more than seven hundred abusive men, as well as therapy with hundreds more, Dutton paints a dramatic and surprising portrait of the man who assaults his intimate partner.

Specialized public resources for survivors of intimate partner violence (IPV) are increasingly common and diverse--from protection order courts and dedicated domestic violence units in police precincts to a vast network of community-based emergency shelters and counseling services. Yet little consensus exists regarding which resources actually work to reduce violence and help survivors lead the lives they would like to live. This book is an account of these resources and IPV survivors' experiences with them in three communities in the United States.Through detailed observations of services such as court procedures, public benefits processes, and community-based IPV programs as well as in-depth interviews with dozens of IPV survivors and practitioners, Shoener describes how our current institutional response to IPV is often not useful--and sometimes quite harmful--for IPV survivors with the least material, social, and cultural capital to spare. For these women, as the interviews vividly record, IPV has long-term economic and social consequences, disrupting career paths and creating social isolation.

Are you kinder to others than you are to yourself? More than a thousand research studies show the benefits of being a supportive friend to yourself, especially in times of need. This science-based workbook offers a step-by-step approach to breaking free of harsh self-judgments and impossible standards in order to cultivate emotional well-being. In a convenient large-size format, the book is based on the authors' groundbreaking eight-week Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC) program, which has helped tens of thousands of people worldwide. It is packed with guided meditations (with audio downloads); informal practices to do anytime, anywhere; exercises; and vivid stories of people using the techniques to address relationship stress, weight and body image issues, health concerns, anxiety, and other common problems. The seeds of self-compassion already lie within you--learn how you can uncover this powerful inner resource and transform your life.See also Teaching the Mindful Self-Compassion Program, by Christopher Germer and Kristin Neff, a thorough overview of conducting MSC (for professionals), and The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion, by Christopher Germer, which delves into mindful self-compassion and shares moving stories of how it can change lives.

Intimate Partner Violence is a serious social problem affecting millions in the United States and worldwide. The image of violence enacted by a male aggressor to a female victim dominates public perceptions of intimate partner violence (IPV). This volume examines how this heteronormativity influences reporting and responding to partner violence when those involved do not fit the stereotype of a typical victim of IPV. Research and theory have helped us to understand power dynamics about heterosexual IPV; this book encourages greater attention to the unique issues and power dynamics of IPV in sexual minority populations. Divided into five distinct sections, chapters address research and theories associated with IPV, examining the similarities and differences of IPV within heterosexual and gender minority relationships.Among the topics discussed:Research methodology and scope of the problem Primary prevention and intervention of IPV among sexual and gender minorities Barriers to help-seeking among various populations Promoting outreach and advocacy Criminal justice response to IPVWith recommendations for intervention and prevention, criminal justice response and policy, Intimate Partner Violence and the LGBT+ Community: Understanding Power Dynamics will be of use to students, researchers, and practitioners of psychology, criminal justice, and public policy.

Self-Compassion: Stop Beating Yourself Up and Leave Insecurity Behind offers expert advice on how to limit self-criticism and offset its negative effects, enabling you to achieve your highest potential and a more contented, fulfilled life.More and more, psychologists are turning away from an emphasis on self-esteem and moving toward self-compassion in the treatment of their patients—and Dr. Neff’s extraordinary book offers exercises and action plans for dealing with every emotionally debilitating struggle, be it parenting, weight loss, or any of the numerous trials of everyday living.

CAGE THE RAGE WITH CLARITY AND CONFIDENCE.A relative makes a tactless comment about your child's weight.The guy behind you on the expressway follows too closely.Your spouse lets the gas tank go down to empty . . . again.Getting angry is easy. Daily irritations, frustrations, and pain poke at us. Feelings of disappointment, hurt, rejection, and embarrassment prod in us. And once the unwieldy cluster of emotions of anger are aroused, our thoughts and actions can feel out of control and impossible to manage.Dr. Gary Chapman, #1 New York Times bestselling author of The 5 Love Languages®, offers helpful-and sometimes surprising-insights into why you get angry and what you can do about it. Using real-life stories and practical principles, Chapman explains how you can channel anger in ways that are healthy and productive. You'll also be equipped to help those you love (including your children) deal with their own anger, as well as effectively deal with those long-simmering feelings of anger toward people in your past.Includes an assessment that will help you discover your personal propensity toward handling anger and how to effectively tame it when it arises.

"Following the 2009 release of her memoir, Scared Silent, Mildred Muhammad is back with the follow up to her story after breaking her silence about the domestic violence she suffered during her marriage to the executed D.C. Sniper, John Allen Muhammad. In her second memoir, I'm Still Standing, Mildred Muhammad picks up where she left off in her first memoir and tells about the compelling events that occurred during and after the conviction and execution of her former husband, John Allen Muhammad. We learn what was going through the minds of their three young children as they faced the reality that their father was going to be executed for his crimes in the October 2002 sniper killings that took place in the Washington, D.C. Metropolitan Area. Mildred Muhammad describes how she and her children overcame the difficulties they faced in the wake of the negative media attention and threats from people in her community who continued the victim-blaming.The victim-blaming caused her to turn to isolation as a way of protecting herself and her children, How did Mildred face those who continued to blame her for the crimes that John had committed? Gritty, raw, and emotional, Mildred Muhammad's story shows her triumph over the (external and internal) system that put her in a place of fear and isolation. Mildred Muhammad's story proves that because of her resilience, strength and having faith in God and her ability to maneuver through the process, she can say with confidence, I'm Still Standing! As an Author, Recognized Speaker, Domestic Abuse/Violence Awareness Advocate and Survivor, Mildred Muhammad has risen to become a voice for victims and survivors of domestic violence; especially for the 80% who do not have physical scars to prove they are victims."

With one out of eleven high school students in the past year experiencing some form of physical abuse — being hit, slapped, or physically hurt on purpose by a boyfriend or girlfriend — young adults need to know where they can turn for help. Even more teens (as high as ninety-six percent) reported emotional and psychological abuse in their relationships.This revised and updated edition for teenagers who have questions about abusive dating relationships helps them understand the causes and consequences of their situation, learn what they can do about it, find help from parents and other adults, and discover how to build healthier relationships. In Love and in Danger is one of the only books available on dating violence and abusive relationships that addresses young adults directly in a straightforward and non-condescending manner. Included are facts about dating violence, tips for how to tell if your relationship is abusive, information on why dating abuse happens, and what you can do if you are being abused by (or are abusing) someone you love. Packed with practical advice and compelling interviews with teens, this edition features updated information and statistics, an expanded resource section, and a new afterword by the author.

In this inspiring book, Muller reveals the resilience of the human spirit in the face of sorrow and teaches readers how to recognize and transform the damaging effects of their wounds and rediscover their natural vitality, creativity, and joy.Filled with practical suggestions, this is a book that will bring every reader consolation, comfort, and the courage to seek a more fulfilling way forward.

Be honest, guys: Have you ever made a foolish or harmful decision when angry? Have you ever said or done something in the heat of the moment that you wish you could take back? Or do you tend to keep your anger hidden, choosing to bury the feeling and hoping it just goes away? No matter how often you get angry or how you express it, Bill Perkins (best-selling author of When Good Men Are Tempted and Six Rules Every Man Must Break) has written this book to provide you with the insight and biblical strategy you need to deal with this crucial issue. Illustrated with research-based statistics and real-life stories of men who have successfully dealt with anger, When Good Men Get Angry explores the foundations of anger―what it is, where it comes from, how Jesus expressed it, and how the new and good man in you can control it.

Updated with new 2022 DoTERRA Essential Oils! Essential oils are widely used for physical health but not as often for emotional healing. Essential Emotions bridges this gap as a user-friendly guide for helping you taking charge of your emotional health. First, the guide describes the innate emotional properties of common oils and blends. Then, a reference chart and comprehensive index help you choose oils and blends for a wide variety of emotional states. This easy to follow spiral bound reference guide will help you come to know the oils in a new way and more fully appreciate their distinct healing qualities. For long-time oil enthusiasts and beginners alike, Essential Emotions will inspire you with the genius and beauty of one of Mother Nature’s finest gifts. The "Essential Emotions Wheel" (SOLD SEPARATELY) is a great way to quickly reference the emotional properties of oils.

This book is written to help you protect yourself from cyberabuse and stalking and to empower you to fight back. It is vital to regaining control over your life in case you and a cyberpredator or stalker ever cross paths. Many victims find little or no help from any law enforcement agency or victim service providers, even though there are stalking and cyberabuse laws. Regulations fail to evolve quickly enough to address the creativity and spontaneity of today's predators.Alexis Moore, Esq. is a leading cyberstalking authority and attorney. Cyberabuse and stalking can take many forms. In this book she shares her creative tactics overcoming stalking and cyberstalking for those in similar situations, and how to utilize tools that are available to help readers protect and defend themselves.

Don’t Let Anger Control You! If you or someone you love is experiencing difficulty coping with their anger, this useful and practical book is the first place to turn to for help. With its clear, evenhanded approach, this book shows you • Why you handle anger the way you do • Positive ways to manage anger • How to speak up strongly and effectively • Effective ways to handle frustration and resolve conflicts • How to set limits and say no to unreasonable demands • Practical ways to cope with stress, embarrassment, and shame • How to relate your feelings to others without losing your cool Whether you have an explosive temper or are brooding over suppressed anger, the questionnaires, step-by-step exercises, and strategies outlined in Anger: Taming the Beast will teach you how to change the way you experience and express anger.

Now in its third edition, It’s My Life Now is a guide for survivors who have left an abusive relationship. It addresses―in clear, non-threatening language―various issues associated with abuse and violence, including post-relationship emotions, psychological impact, dealing with children, personal safety, legal problems, and financial security. Each chapter dismantles common myths about being in and leaving an abusive relationship and contains activities for self-exploration that survivors can complete as they navigate a new life free from abuse. Recommended by the National Coalition of Domestic Violence, this book is designed to benefit any survivor, no matter how much time has passed.

Her father died of an overdose when she was two. Unable to cope with the loss, her mother turned to drugs and alcohol, leaving Tracy in the care of grandparents. Nothing in Tracy's life was easy or normal. Homeless as a teenager, she became a stripper to support herself. When Frank sweeps her off her feet she can finally have the life she'd been aching for. She didn't know about his controlling and abusive personality. What happens to Tracy then is so horrifying that your urge to set down the book, and catch your breath, will be overcome by your need to read what happens next. Tracy cuts to the chase in this true crime memoir. She's honest and straight-forward as only a woman who has survived this kind of trauma can be.

A down-to-earth plan to help us recover from the wounds of the past and grow more and more into the image of God.Many of us struggle with anxiety, loneliness, and feelings of inadequacy. We know that God created us in his image, but how can we be loving when we feel burned out? How can we be free when we struggle with addiction? Will we ever enjoy the complete healing God promises?Combining his professional expertise and personal experience, renowned psychologist Dr. Henry Cloud guides us through four basic ways to become joy-filled, mature followers of Christ: Connect more deeply with others Separate from others in healthy ways Understand the good and the bad in ourselves and others Grow into greater emotional and spiritual maturityWith fascinating case studies and helpful techniques we can start using immediately, Changes That Heal reminds us that God promises to complete his good work in us.Workbook and Spanish edition also available.

Are you sick and tired of feeling sick and tired?Maybe you find it difficult to get out of bed and you need coffee to be able to go through your daily activities. Maybe you feel out of balance. Maybe you find it hard to lose weight and you don't even have enough energy to do a moderate workout.Chances are, that, like the majority of the people in our Western society, you just feel burned out and exhausted. This is not your fault as our fast-paced modern lifestyles are extremely demanding and our diets very often lack nutrients we need to function optimally. This is why the sad truth is that most people are not living, they are surviving...If you want to love the life you live and live the life you love, you need vibrant health and abundant energy. You need to create a balance.The good news is that you can dramatically improve your health with just one herb that has been used in Ayurvedic medicine for hundreds of years. Yes, this herb has a proven track record of success and it can help you revitalize your body and mind so that you can ENJOY good health and life.So, What's the Secret You Need to Know?Ashwagandha is known as an adaptogenic herb. Adaptogens are substances such as amino acids, vitamins, and herbs that modulate the body's response to stress and/or a changing environment, both of which are a consistent aspect of modern-day life. Adaptogens are known to help the body cope with and fight against external stressors such as toxins and the environment, as well as internal stressors such as anxiety, insomnia, and depression.

This is the only book written specifically for men in a language that is respectful to men, about how to deal better with the most important relationships in their lives. It provides real tools for men who have trouble dealing with the emotional demands of relationships and those affected by them.The premise of this book is that good, well-intentioned men can, in times of stress and emotional conflict, act in destructive ways that don't reflect their true character. From a humanistic and empathetic perspective, this book explores the latest research about male psychological development to create a new, compassionate narrative for the struggles men face. Learn to recognize and label your internal states. Find out why displays of not-so-masculine emotions are so difficult to deal with, and why they can provoke episodes of problematic behavior. Explore the father-son relationship and the reality of male peer relations; see why these patterned interactions can reinforce bad behavior from generation to generation. Structured exercises and strategies help transfer the concepts of the book into daily experience.David B. Wexler, Ph.D., is the founder and executive director of the Relationship Training Institute, an organization designed to help couples and especially men who are having problems in relationships.His previous work includesThe Adolescent Self andThe PRISM Workbook.Visit the author at his Web site: www.rtiprojects.com.

2013 Gelett Burgess Children's Book Award: Mind, Body and SpiritHealing Days is a sensitive and reassuring story intended for children who have experienced trauma and covers the feelings, thoughts, and behaviors that many kids have after a bad and scary thing happens.A useful book to read with a parent or therapist, Healing Days emphasizes that children are not to blame for what happened, and that they can get help and look forward to a happy future. Kids will begin to understand their response to the trauma and learn some strategies for feeling safer, more relaxed, and more confident.Kids will begin to understand their response to the trauma and learn some strategies for feeling safer, more relaxed, and more confident.You can download an extensive Note to Parents and Caregivers including a list of helpful resources from APA.org.

Lying. Cheating. Manipulating.Will they ever change?What will it take to get through to them?They apologized, but will this time be different...or will they just get better at hiding what they are up to?This book will help you get out of the fog of confusion and into the clarity that you are looking for.FOG is an acronym that stands for "Fear, Obligation, and Guilt." These three emotions are often at the core of manipulation, and are often how narcissists, sociopaths, and other types of emotional manipulators go about controlling their targets.However, this type of destructive manipulation isn't just limited to narcissists and sociopaths.There is no shortage of people with well-intended bad advice out there who unintentionally fall into the FOG as well, and push targets of abuse into keeping the relationship going.The FOG is one of the main reasons that people stay "stuck" in abusive relationships for so long, why they continue to get involved with abusive people, why they feel that they are the problem, and why they tend to feel that the abuse is somehow their fault.When a person is being manipulated they have a hard time figuring out who has the problem, what is normal, what is problematic, and if their wants, needs, and feelings are valid. The disasterous effects of being lost in the FOG are confusion, crazymaking, people pleasing, and an erosion of boundaries.What makes this well-intended bad advice so damaging is that, on the surface, it seems like good advice--especially if it's coming from people who seem to have our best interests in mind, such as friends, family, church members, support group members, or a therapist.Some examples of this well-intended bad advice that comes from other people is:"Who are you to judge?""No one is perfect.""You need to forgive them.""She's your mother, you need to have a relationship with her...she's not getting any younger you know.""Commitment is forever."What can be so crazymaking for targets is that they are often getting two very different messages. On one hand, they are told that they need to work towards a solution, and on the other, they are told that need to leave a partner who lies, cheats, steals, hits, yells, or belittles them.This book compares and contrasts of these concepts so that targets of any type of manipulation and abuse can make a more empowered decision.Some of the concepts covered are:Who are You to Judge vs. Being DiscerningNo One is Perfect vs. Tolerating AbuseYou Need to Forgive Them vs. Keeping Yourself SafeA Parent vs. A PredatorCommitment vs. CodependencySelf-love vs. SelfishnessA Person Acting the Part vs. A Person Actually ChangingGut Instincts vs. HypervigilanceA Friend vs. Someone Being FriendlyCaring vs. CaretakingBeing in Love With Them vs. Being in Love With Who They Pretended to BeWorkable Behavior vs. Deal BreakersAcceptance vs. AllowanceGoing Through So Much Together vs. Being Put Through So Much By ThemSincerity vs. IntensityHealthy Bonding vs. Trauma BondingInsincere Remorse vs. Sincere RemorseReacting vs. Responding...and many more.

Drop the Rope in Your Tug-of-War with AngerIf you've tried to control problem anger before with little success, this book offers you a fundamentally new approach and new hope. Instead of struggling even harder to manage or eliminate your anger, you can stop anger feelings from determining who you are and how you live your life. Based on a revolutionary psychological approach called acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), the techniques in ACT on Life Not on Anger can help you let go of anger and start living your life to the fullest.Your path begins as you learn to accept your angry feelings as they occur, without judging or trying to manage them. Then, using techniques based in mindfulness practice, you'll discover how to observe your feelings of anger without acting on them. Value-identification exercises help you figure out what truly matters to you so that you can commit to short- and long-term goals that turn your values into reality. In the process, anger will lose power over your life-and, amazingly, you'll gain control over your life by simply letting go of your angry feelings.

Leaving Dorian is a story about finding hope and embracing the unknown, as recounted by domestic violence survivor Linda Dynel. This fast paced, riveting memoir takes the reader with Ms. Dynel on every step of her journey; from hurriedly throwing her children's clothes into garbage bags and gathering the weapons that her husband had stockpiled to protect his family during the Apocalypse that he was sure was coming with the New Millennium, to moving back in with her equally as imbalanced mother, which at the time she believed to be her only reasonable means of escape."My purpose in writing Leaving Dorian was primarily to educate. The questions that were asked of me when I finally escaped are the very same questions that are asked over and over again by loved ones, lawyers and co-workers of victims. "If it was so bad, why didn't you call the police? Why did you keep having children with him? How could you just let him push you around/yell at you/hit you like that? Why didn't you fight back? How could you let your children live like that? Why didn't you leave sooner?" My hope is that by bringing the reader into my violent marriage, as well as allowing the reader to examine my upbringing and the way in which I ended up meeting and eventually marrying "Dorian", I can help the reader to understand not only how abuse starts but also how it is successfully carried out against the victim. Domestic violence is perhaps the most misunderstood of all crimes that law enforcement and social service agencies deal with on a daily basis, as it's not about poor anger management skills, substance abuse or economic stressors. Domestic violence is about one person's belief that they are entitled to have complete control over another human being. It is my sincerest hope that Leaving Dorian will enable those in the mental health and counseling professions, as well as loved ones of victims, to gain an entirely new and fresh perspective on what a victim of domestic violence really grapples with every day. It is only through education and understanding that we will ever, as a society, put an end to the erroneous thought processes that allow domestic violence to continue to flourish."

Practice deep self compassion with a wide range of strategies.Today's the day to start loving yourself. How to Be Nice to Yourself makes it simple to start practicing self compassion with a wide variety of techniques and strategies that anyone can learn.Filled with easy-to-use advice drawn from a variety of sources―including meditation, mindfulness, and acceptance and commitment therapy―this book will help you find the right way to start feeling good about yourself.How to Be Nice to Yourself: The Everyday Guide to Self Compassion includes: Proven Strategies―Learn a variety of ways to practice self compassion daily―with meditations, writing exercises, and more. Practical Advice―Bring self compassion to your thoughts, emotions, and actions with exercises that can easily be applied to your daily life. Personalized Approach―Customize your self compassion practice with a personalized plan based on what matters to you and the kind of changes you want to see.Start loving yourself with the techniques that work best for you. You'll discover them in How to be Nice to Yourself: The Everyday Guide to Self Compassion.

Flickers of Light in the Midst of a Stormy Life is the true story of my transparent journey through a life of many sunshiny days mixed with a lot of raging storms. With all my raging storms people have compared my life to binge watching the "Life Time Movie Channel". My life can even be likened to the characters portrayed in such movies as "Woman Thou Art Loose", "Scandal", "Enough", "Vanilla Sky", "Chicago", "For Colored Girls" and "A Mother Betrayed", because I personally endured each of the raging storms depicted in those productions. Those storms caused permanent painful emotional scars that I have learned to live with because of flickers of light. Although I wrote this book as a born-again Christian, I believe that regardless of your spiritual ideology there is no “if, and, or but” about it, everyone can find flickers of light during the storms of life. I reveal how flickers of light from God enabled me to live with the emotional scars from the aftermath of my storms. My most raging storms are: i) abuse from domestic violence, being raped, and molested as a child; ii) from my self-inflicted storms I am guilty of manslaughter of my first husband who physically and mentally abused me from 1976 to 1980, trying to commit suicide numerous times, behaving promiscuous in my late teenage years, committing adultery during my second marriage, and having an abortion after being raped; iii) challenging storms of being incarcerated and a felon, suffering from post-traumatic stress disorder after being betrayed by my third husband, and being discarded by my employer in 2015 after twenty years of stellar service. During the storms of your life I hope my life story inspires you to recognize and cling to your flickers of light until you can see the specks of sunshine on the horizon.

A Personalized Workbook to Help You Deepen, Reflect On, and Apply Whole-Brain Principles.Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson speak to audiences all over the world about their immensely popular best-sellers, The Whole-Brain Child and No-Drama Discipline. The message Dan and Tina continually receive from their audiences, whether live or virtual, is that people are hungry for the opportunity to take the Whole-Brain ideas and go deeper with them. Thanks to this new workbook, they now can.The Whole-Brain Child Workbook has a unique, interactive approach that allows readers not only to think more deeply about how the ideas fit their own parenting approach, but also develop specific and practical ways to implement the concepts—and bring them to life for themselves and for their children. Dozens of clear, practical and age-specific exercises and activities. Applications for clinicians, parents, educators, grandparents and care-givers!

A revolutionary memoir about domestic abuse by the award-winning author of Her Body and Other PartiesIn the Dream House is Carmen Maria Machado’s engrossing and wildly innovative account of a relationship gone bad, and a bold dissection of the mechanisms and cultural representations of psychological abuse. Tracing the full arc of a harrowing relationship with a charismatic but volatile woman, Machado struggles to make sense of how what happened to her shaped the person she was becoming.And it’s that struggle that gives the book its original structure: each chapter is driven by its own narrative trope―the haunted house, erotica, the bildungsroman―through which Machado holds the events up to the light and examines them from different angles. She looks back at her religious adolescence, unpacks the stereotype of lesbian relationships as safe and utopian, and widens the view with essayistic explorations of the history and reality of abuse in queer relationships.Machado’s dire narrative is leavened with her characteristic wit, playfulness, and openness to inquiry. She casts a critical eye over legal proceedings, fairy tales, Star Trek, and Disney villains, as well as iconic works of film and fiction. The result is a wrenching, riveting book that explodes our ideas about what a memoir can do and be.

NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • The authors of No-Drama Discipline and The Yes Brain explain the new science of how a child’s brain is wired and how it matures in this pioneering, practical book.“Simple, smart, and effective solutions to your child’s struggles.”—Harvey Karp, M.D.In this pioneering, practical book, Daniel J. Siegel, neuropsychiatrist and author of the bestselling Mindsight, and parenting expert Tina Payne Bryson offer a revolutionary approach to child rearing with twelve key strategies that foster healthy brain development, leading to calmer, happier children. The authors explain—and make accessible—the new science of how a child’s brain is wired and how it matures. The “upstairs brain,” which makes decisions and balances emotions, is under construction until the mid-twenties. And especially in young children, the right brain and its emotions tend to rule over the logic of the left brain. No wonder kids throw tantrums, fight, or sulk in silence. By applying these discoveries to everyday parenting, you can turn any outburst, argument, or fear into a chance to integrate your child’s brain and foster vital growth.Complete with age-appropriate strategies for dealing with day-to-day struggles and illustrations that will help you explain these concepts to your child, The Whole-Brain Child shows you how to cultivate healthy emotional and intellectual development so that your children can lead balanced, meaningful, and connected lives.“[A] useful child-rearing resource for the entire family . . . The authors include a fair amount of brain science, but they present it for both adult and child audiences.”—Kirkus Reviews“Strategies for getting a youngster to chill out [with] compassion.”—The Washington Post“This erudite, tender, and funny book is filled with fresh ideas based on the latest neuroscience research. I urge all parents who want kind, happy, and emotionally healthy kids to read The Whole-Brain Child. This is my new baby gift.”—Mary Pipher, Ph.D., author of Reviving Ophelia and The Shelter of Each Other“Gives parents and teachers ideas to get all parts of a healthy child’s brain working together.”—Parent to Parent

Threat management expert Spencer Coursen offers proactive strategies to protect yourself and your loved ones in the event of hostile encounters and emergency situations in The Safety Trap: A Security Expert’s Secrets for Staying Safe in a Dangerous World.Despite what the news and social media would have you believe, we have never lived in a safer time than we are now. Unfortunately, we live under a false sense of security enforced by authorities that only alleviates fears without reducing risk. We have placed our personal safety, and our responsibilities of guarding it, into the hands of people trained only to respond to crises, not actively prevent them. Our blind faith in institutions to protect us has only dulled our natural survival instincts.The truth is that when we feel safest is actually when we are in the most danger.This is the paradox of The Safety Trap.When you don’t expect danger, you simply fail to see the signs that something bad is about to happen. But the signs are always there, and staying safe is about training yourself to see them. In easy-to-implement methods of maintaining vigilance, assessing risk, and taking preventative measures, you’ll discover how to be alert without anxiety and know how to best protect and defend yourself on the job, in school, in public places, at home, and online.With Coursen’s simple formula of Awareness + Preparation = Safety as your guide―as well as real world examples of managing threats―you will learn how to develop the skills and confidence to reclaim your own security and avoid The Safety Trap.

What parents, educators, and health professionals can do to recognize, prevent, and heal childhood trauma, from infancy through adolescence—by the author of Waking the TigerTrauma can result not only from catastrophic events such as abuse, violence, or loss of loved ones, but from natural disasters and everyday incidents like auto accidents, medical procedures, divorce, or even falling off a bicycle. At the core of this book is the understanding of how trauma is imprinted on the body, brain, and spirit—often resulting in anxiety, nightmares, depression, physical illnesses, addictions, hyperactivity, and aggression.Rich with case studies and hands-on activities, Trauma Through a Child’s Eyes gives insight into children’s innate ability to rebound with the appropriate support, and provides their caregivers with tools to overcome and prevent trauma.“Trauma Through A Child’s Eyes . . . creates its own mold in a way that everyone concerned with the health and happiness of children will be grateful for.” —Gabor Maté, MD, author of Hold On to Your Kids

Empowers women of all ages and backgrounds to improve their self-esteem for a lifetime of awareness, poise, and confidence.Despite years of progress, many women today continue to suffer from low self-esteem. In her revelatory and prescriptive work THE SELF-ESTEEM REGIME: An Action Plan for Becoming the Confident Person You Were Meant to Be, internationally renowned multimedia producer, supermodel, award-winning actress, and public speaker Clarissa Burt offers down-to-earth advice for women to help them manifest self-confidence in all aspects of their lives: relationships, family, friendships, careers, and everyday engagement. The book helps readers find worthiness through a concrete, step-by-step program for women of all ages and backgrounds. Sharing her unique mix of knowledge, attitude, and humor, Clarissa walks readers through her unique process that instills a lifetime of self-awareness, poise, and assurance.Clarissa empowers readers to accept mistakes as valuable learning experiences and steppingstones. Her regime—which features a wealth of tips, case studies, and affirmations—is neither complicated nor demanding, although it builds mental strength, toughness, and resilience –qualities necessary for higher self-esteem and overall wellness.

“A wise and fresh approach to mindful parenting.”—Tara Brach, author of Radical AcceptanceA kinder, more compassionate world starts with kind and compassionate kids. In Raising Good Humans, you’ll find powerful and practical strategies to break free from “reactive parenting” habits and raise kind, cooperative, and confident kids.Whether you’re running late for school, trying to get your child to eat their vegetables, or dealing with an epic meltdown in the checkout line at a grocery store—being a parent is hard work! And, as parents, many of us react in times of stress without thinking—often by yelling. But what if, instead of always reacting on autopilot, you could respond thoughtfully in those moments, keep your cool, and get from A to B on time and in one piece?With this book, you’ll find powerful mindfulness skills for calming your own stress response when difficult emotions arise. You’ll also discover strategies for cultivating respectful communication, effective conflict resolution, and reflective listening. In the process, you’ll learn to examine your own unhelpful patterns and ingrained reactions that reflect the generational habits shaped by your parents, so you can break the cycle and respond to your children in more skillful ways.When children experience a parent reacting with kindness and patience, they learn to act with kindness as well—thereby altering generational patterns for a kinder, more compassionate future. With this essential guide, you’ll see how changing your own “autopilot reactions” can create a lasting positive impact, not just for your kids, but for generations to come.An essential, must-read for all parents—now more than ever.“To raise the children we hope to raise, we have to learn to become the person we hoped to be…. This wonderful book will help you handle the ride.”—KJ Dell’Antonia, author of How to Be a Happier Parent“Hunter Clarke-Fields shares her wisdom and personal experience to help parents create peaceful families.”—Joanna Faber and Julie King, coauthors of How to Talk So Little Kids Will Listen

Boundaries is the book that's helped over 4 million people learn when to say yes and know how to say no in order to take control of their lives.Does your life feel like it's out of control? Perhaps you feel like you have to say yes to everyone's requests. Maybe you find yourself readily taking responsibility for others' feelings and problems. Or perhaps you focus so much on being loving and unselfish that you've forgotten your own limits and limitations. Or maybe it's all of the above.In the New York Times bestseller, Boundaries, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend help you learn when to say yes and know how to say no in order to take control of your life and set healthy, biblical boundaries with your spouse, children, friends, parents, co-workers, and even yourself.Now updated and expanded for the digital age, this book continues to help millions of people around the world answer these tough questions: Can I set limits and still be a loving person? What are legitimate boundaries? How do I effectively manage my digital life so that it doesn't control me? What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries? How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money? Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries? How do boundaries relate to mutual submission within marriage? Aren’t boundaries selfish?You don’t have to let your life spiral out of control. Discover how boundaries make life better today!Plus, check out Boundaries family collection of books dedicated to key areas of life - dating, marriage, raising kids, parenting teens, and leadership. Workbooks and Spanish editions are also available.

A gently told and tenderly illustrated story for children who have witnessed any kind of violent or traumatic episode, including physical abuse, school or gang violence, accidents, homicide, suicide, and natural disasters such as floods or fire.Sherman Smith saw the most terrible thing happen. At first he tried to forget about it, but soon something inside him started to bother him. He felt nervous for no reason. Sometimes his stomach hurt. He had bad dreams. And he started to feel angry and do mean things, which got him in trouble. Then he met Ms. Maple, who helped him talk about the terrible thing that he had tried to forget. Now Sherman is feeling much better.Children who have witnessed violence or other traumatic incidents are at surprisingly greater risk for committing violence in the future than are children who have actually been involved in such events. The event might be a car accident, domestic or school violence, suicide, or a natural disaster such as a tornado, flood, or fire. Regardless of the type of incident, child witnesses often react by trying to forget or ignore the experience. When their feelings are pushed underground in this manner, these children may begin to feel bad in ways they don’t understand, and become angry as a result of feeling bad. It is this anger that can give way to violence.Caring adults can make all the difference by helping children talk about and understand the experience. An afterword by Sasha J. Mudlaff written for parents and other caregivers offers extensive suggestions for helping traumatized children, including a list of other sources that focus on specific events.

“It is a hell of a thing to write about brutality and suffering with strength, grace, generosity and beauty. That’s precisely what Kelly Sundberg has done in her gripping memoir about marriage and domestic violence. Sundberg’s honesty is astonishing, how she laid so much of herself bare, how she did not demonize a man who deserves to be demonized. Instead, she offers a portrait of a broken man and a broken marriage and an abiding love, what it took to set herself free from it all. In shimmering, open hearted prose, she shows that it took everything."--Roxane Gay, author of Hunger and Bad Feminist"In her stunning memoir, Kelly Sundberg examines the heart-breaking bonds of love, detailing her near decade-long marriage’s slide into horrific abuse. Sundberg shares her own confusions, fears and empathy for her violent husband, even as she comes to realize he will never change. This is an immensely courageous story that will break your heart, leave you in tears, and, finally, offer hope and redemption. Brava, Kelly Sundberg."—Rene Denfeld, author of The Child Finder"A fierce, frightening, soulful reckoning—Goodbye, Sweet Girl is an expertly rendered memoir that investigates why we stay in relationships that hurt us, and how we survive when we leave them. Kelly Sundberg is a force. She has written the rare book that has the power to change lives."—Christa Parravani, author of Her: A MemoirIn this brave and beautiful memoir, written with the raw honesty and devastating openness of The Glass Castle and The Liar’s Club, a woman chronicles how her marriage devolved from a love story into a shocking tale of abuse—examining the tenderness and violence entwined in the relationship, why she endured years of physical and emotional pain, and how she eventually broke free."You made me hit you in the face," he said mournfully. "Now everyone is going to know." "I know," I said. "I’m sorry."Kelly Sundberg’s husband, Caleb, was a funny, warm, supportive man and a wonderful father to their little boy Reed. He was also vengeful and violent. But Sundberg did not know that when she fell in love, and for years told herself he would get better. It took a decade for her to ultimately accept that the partnership she desired could not work with such a broken man. In her remarkable book, she offers an intimate record of the joys and terrors that accompanied her long, difficult awakening, and presents a haunting, heartbreaking glimpse into why women remain too long in dangerous relationships.To understand herself and her violent marriage, Sundberg looks to her childhood in Salmon, a small, isolated mountain community known as the most redneck town in Idaho. Like her marriage, Salmon is a place of deep contradictions, where Mormon ranchers and hippie back-to-landers live side-by-side; a place of magical beauty riven by secret brutality; a place that takes pride in its individualism and rugged self-sufficiency, yet is beholden to church and communal standards at all costs.Mesmerizing and poetic, Goodbye, Sweet Girl is a harrowing, cautionary, and ultimately redemptive tale that brilliantly illuminates one woman’s transformation as she gradually rejects the painful reality of her violent life at the hands of the man who is supposed to cherish her, begins to accept responsibility for herself, and learns to believe that she deserves better.

Learn to overcome trauma, adversity, and struggle by unleashing the science of hope in your daily life with this inspiring and informative guide.Hope is much more than wishful thinking. Science tells us that it is the most predictive indicator of well-being in a person’s life. Hope is measurable. It is malleable. And it changes lives. In Hope Rising, Casey Gwinn and Chan Hellman reveal the latest science of hope using nearly 2,000 published studies, including their own research. Based on their findings, they make an impassioned call for hope to be the focus not only of our personal lives, but of public policy for education, business, social services, and every part of society.Hope Rising provides a roadmap to measure hope in your life. It teaches you to assess what may have robbed you of hope, and then provides strategies to let your hope flourish once again. The authors challenge every reader to be honest about their own struggles and end the cycle of shame and blame related to trauma, illness, and abuse. These are important first steps toward increasing your Hope score—and thriving because of it.

Get ready to slay your dragons! Kathryn Cave’s classic yet timely picture book is empowering relief for young ones struggling with worry, fears, and anxiety.“A great choice for the walking worried.” ―Booklist“A wonderfully written story of empowerment to share with any child whether they have experienced loss, trauma or are just struggling with fears or worries of any kind.” ―Nicole Wilbur, MSW, LMSW, Co-Owner of the Self Esteem Shop, Medical and School Social WorkerWorries, fears, and anxieties are all dragons that sneak up on most of us at one time or another. Lots of people get dragons. And sometimes they’re hard to get rid of. So what can a young boy with a bad case of the dragons do?He can pretend they are not there, or that they are really quite harmless. Hugs from his mom help. Looking his dragon straight in the eye at least once every day helps even more. But most reassuring of all is the reminder that dragons don’t stay forever.You’ve Got Dragons provides real, actionable, kid-friendly advice on handling stress and is ideal for students exploring SEL themes. Get ready to tear down barriers to conversation and inspire creative coping.

Dive into the gripping memoir, Wanna Go. Wanna Stay, where Maria takes you on a heart-wrenching journey of love entangled in the need to break free. From the picturesque landscapes of Ohio to the vibrant backdrop of Atlanta, Maria's life tumbles from an exciting romance with Mark into a nightmare of abuse and despair.Captivating from the first page, Maria's story unfolds as she battles the torment of an abusive relationship, seeking solace from a church minister who gives her the mystifying advice to tie the knot to quell Mark's jealousy. The emotional roller coaster intensifies as Maria escapes to Ohio, only to be lured back by Mark's promises of change.In Wanna Go. Wanna Stay, Maria's tale is both a powerful testament to the strength of her faith and a poignant reminder that love should never come at the cost of one's well-being. Join Maria in her pursuit of liberation, as she navigates the tumultuous path between escape and the desire for a love that truly cares.

5,000,000 COPIES SOLD WORLDWIDE • TRANSLATED IN MORE THAN 35 LANGUAGESWhat is Violent Communication?If “violent” means acting in ways that result in hurt or harm, then much of how we communicate—judging others, bullying, having racial bias, blaming, finger pointing, discriminating, speaking without listening, criticizing others or ourselves, name-calling, reacting when angry, using political rhetoric, being defensive or judging who’s “good/bad” or what’s “right/wrong” with people—could indeed be called “violent communication.”What is Nonviolent Communication?Nonviolent Communication is the integration of four things:• Consciousness: a set of principles that support living a life of compassion, collaboration, courage, and authenticity• Language: understanding how words contribute to connection or distance• Communication: knowing how to ask for what we want, how to hear others even in disagreement, and how to move toward solutions that work for all• Means of influence: sharing “power with others” rather than using “power over others”Nonviolent Communication serves our desire to do three things:• Increase our ability to live with choice, meaning, and connection• Connect empathically with self and others to have more satisfying relationships• Sharing of resources so everyone is able to benefit

A Volcano in My Tummy: Helping Children to Handle Anger presents a clear and effective approach to helping children and adults alike understand and deal constructively with children's anger. Using easy to understand yet rarely taught skills for anger management, including how to teach communication of emotions, A Volcano in My Tummy offers engaging, well-organized activities which help to overcome the fear of children's anger which many adult care-givers experience. By carefully distinguishing between anger the feeling, and violence the behavior, this accessible little book, primarily created for ages 6 to thirteen, helps to create an awareness of anger, enabling children to relate creatively and harmoniously at critical stages in their development.Through activities, stories, articles, and games designed to allow a multi-subject, developmental approach to the topic at home and in school, A Volcano in My Tummy gives us the tools we need to put aside our problems with this all-too-often destructive emotion, and to have fun while we're at it.Elaine Whitehouse is a teacher, family court and private psychotherapist, mother of two and leader of parenting skills workshops for eight years. Warwick Pudney is a teacher and counsellor with ten years experience facilitating anger management, abuser therapy and men's change groups, as well as being a father of three. Both regularly conduct workshops.

The New York Times Bestseller! Learn How To Keep Your Cool And Get The Results You Want When Emotions Flare. When Stakes Are High, Opinions Vary, And Emotions Run Strong, You Have Three Choices: Avoid A Crucial Conversation And Suffer The Consequences; Handle The Conversation Badly And Suffer The Consequences; Or Read Crucial Conversations And Discover How To Communicate Best When It Matters Most. Crucial Conversations Gives You The Tools You Need To Step Up To Life's Most Difficult And Important Conversations, Say What's On Your Mind, And Achieve The Positive Resolutions You Want. You'll Learn How To: Prepare For High-impact Situations With A Six-minute Mastery Technique Make It Safe To Talk About Almost Anything Be Persuasive, Not Abrasive Keep Listening When Others Blow Up Or Clam Up Turn Crucial Conversations Into The Action And Results You Want Whether They Take Place At Work Or At Home, With Your Neighbors Or Your Spouse, Crucial Conversations Can Have A Profound Impact On Your Career, Your Happiness, And Your Future. With The Skills You Learn In This Book, You'll Never Have To Worry About The Outcome Of A Crucial Conversation Again.

Winner of the 2022 Memoir Prize for Books - Caregiving categoryESS Public Sociology AwardRecommended Book in Domestic Violence by DomesticShelters.orgHow do you go about caregiving for an ill and elderly parent with a lifelong history of abuse and control, intertwined with expressions of intense love and adoration? How do you reconcile the resulting ambivalence, fear, and anger?Welcome to Wherever We Are is a meditation on what we hold onto, what we let go of, how we remember others and ultimately how we’re remembered. Deborah Cohan shares her story of caring for her father, a man who was simultaneously loud, gentle, loving and cruel and whose brilliant career as an advertising executive included creating slogans like “Hey, how ‘bout a nice Hawaiian punch?” Wrestling with emotional extremes that characterize abusive relationships, Cohan shows how she navigated life with a man who was at once generous and affectionate, creating magical coat pockets filled with chocolate kisses when she was a little girl, yet who was also prone to searing, vicious remarks like “You’d make my life easier if you’d commit suicide.”In this gripping memoir, Cohan tells her unique personal story while also weaving in her expertise as a sociologist and domestic abuse counselor to address broader questions related to marriage, violence, divorce, only children, intimacy and loss. A story most of us can relate to as we reckon with past and future choices against the backdrop of complicated family dynamics, Welcome to Wherever We Are is about how we might come to live our own lives better amidst unpredictable changes through grief and healing.Questions for Discussion (https://d3tto5i5w9ogdd.cloudfront.net/wp-content/uploads/2020/05/11140346/Cohan_Discussion.docx)

For over 35 years, changing families have been using this classic, practical guide for learning to talk to each other about one of life's most difficult moments--from the creators of the beloved, bestselling Dino Life Guides!* "Prediction: This will became a real 'security blanket' for those young readers in need." --School Library Journal (starred review)A comprehensive, sensitive guide for changing families, Dinosaurs Divorce helps readers understand what divorce means, why it happens, and how to best cope with everyone's feelings. Topics covered in the book include: Divorce Words and What They Mean * Why Parents Divorce * After the Divorce * Living with One Parent * Visiting Your Parent * Having Two Homes * Celebrating Holidays and Special Occasions * Telling Your Friends * Meeting Parents' New Friends * Living with Stepparents * Having StepsiblingsA New York Times Notable Book of the YearA School Library Journal Best Book of the YearDon't miss these other Dino Tales: Life Guides for Families--over 1.5 million copies sold!:When Dinosaurs Die: A Guide to Understanding DeathDemocracy for Dinosaurs: A Guide for Young CitizensDinosaurs Go Green!: A Guide to Protecting the Planet

Divorcing a narcissist? You are probably left feeling baffled and shaken by the communication that you receive from the narcissist. In my mid-twenties, I contemplated learning multiple foreign languages. I envisioned dabbling in French to successfully make my way around Paris or Irish Gaelic to explore the rich history of Ireland along with my deep ancestral roots in that country. My day dreams about learning new languages always went hand in hand with the imagery of world travel. The thought of exploring exotic and old world places far away from home intrigued me. My mind summoned several foreign adventures, but never did I think I would need to learn a foreign language to navigate my own life. In 2008, I heard the words, “Narcissistic Personality Disorder” (NPD) to describe my then-husband, Seth. It took a couple years for the reality of those three little words to really sink in. Looking back, the red flags had been waving in the wind since our very first date. Those flags grew taller and more vibrant in color during our marriage. As it turns out, those same red flags that had been lining my path for years were dipped in a highly flammable mixture of kerosene. I realized the danger only when they exploded near the end of my marriage. Like any unexpected explosion, I was unprepared and left nursing deep, emotional, third-degree burns. In my research, I discovered a new language which took quite a bit of studying and insight on NPD to understand. As it turns out, the reason that I was so bewildered by Seth’s communication style was that we were speaking completely different languages. I spoke the English version of “human” while he was speaking the non-human “Narc-ish.” I am convinced there is a Narc-ish dictionary or manual hidden deep in a dark, musty hole somewhere in a faraway land with step-by-step instructions on how to inflict fear, confusion and despair. From this land, narcissists hail. Their secret language can only be decoded by those who aren’t fooled by the narcissist’s stealth ability to inflict confusion and chaos with it. My computer has a feature that allows me to translate most languages. However, this particular area of my life requires technology that is a bit savvier. Need is the catalyst of industry: and I was in need of a device to decipher Narc-ish. So, I invented one. I call it the “Narc Decoder” and have made life-altering good use of it. The good news is, everyone has access to the Narc Decoder because it is a machine that I am honored to replicate and share with anyone who is forced to communicate with a narcissist. Once you understand how to use the Narc Decoder, your life will change for the better. You will become empowered and will regain your voice. Over time, you will begin to find humor in the communication style that once left you on your knees begging for mercy.

“I said I was sorry!”Even in the best of relationships, all of us make mistakes. We do and say things we later regret and hurt the people we love most. So we need to make things right. But simply saying you’re sorry is usually not enough.In this book, #1 New York Times bestselling author Gary Chapman and Jennifer Thomas unveil new ways to effectively approach and mend fractured relationships. Even better, you’ll discover how meaningful apologies provide the power to make your friendships, family, and marriage stronger than ever before.When Sorry Isn’t Enough will help you . . . Cool down heated arguments Offer apologies that are fully accepted Rekindle love that has been dimmed by pain Restore and strengthen valuable relationships Trade in tired excuses for honesty, trust, and joy*This book was previously published as The Five Languages of Apology. Content has been significantly revised and updated.

There once was a boy who didn't want to be sad. So he made a decision. He made a plan.The plan was to get rid of everything that made him sad. but what he found out when he tried to get rid of sadness was a very, very big lesson in happiness. This book helps children face and even celebrate their emotions, even the uncomfortable ones, as parts of the whole experience of being alive."Happiness is a skill we can teach our children and ourselves, and it's easier than we think," says Rob Goldblatt, PsyD, who offers his first lesson in happiness with this book.Includes a Note to Parents.

In today's fast-paced world of competitive workplaces and turbulent economic conditions, each of us is searching for effective tools that can help us to manage, adapt, and strike out ahead of the pack.By now, emotional intelligence (EQ) needs little introduction—it’s no secret that EQ is critical to your success. But knowing what EQ is and knowing how to use it to improve your life are two very different things.Emotional Intelligence 2.0 delivers a step-by-step program for increasing your EQ via four, core EQ skills that enable you to achieve your fullest potential:1) Self-Awareness2) Self-Management3) Social Awareness4) Relationship ManagementEmotional Intelligence 2.0 is a book with a single purpose—increasing your EQ. Here’s what people are saying about it:“Emotional Intelligence 2.0 succinctly explains how to deal with emotions creatively and employ our intelligence in a beneficial way.”—The Dalai Lama“A fast read with compelling anecdotes and good context in which to understand and improve.”—Newsweek"Gives abundant, practical findings and insights with emphasis on how to develop EQ. Research shows convincingly that EQ is more important than IQ."--Stephen R. Covey, author, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People"This book can drastically change the way you think about success...read it twice."--Patrick Lencioni, author, The Five Dysfunctions of a Team.

Tina Swithin’s life was hit by a devastating Life Storm in 2009. Tina had recently heard the words, “Narcissistic Personality Disorder” used to describe her then-husband by a therapist yet she had no real understanding of how this disorder would turn her life upside down during a custody battle that spanned six-years. In less than a year, Tina lost her home, businesses, cars, worldly possessions and her marriage. In one fell swoop, everything was gone. In Family Court, Tina acted as her own attorney and finally, in 2014, secured peace and safety for her young daughters. A true ‘lemon to lemonade’ story, Tina has rebuilt her life and thrives in the aftermath of the Life Storm that threatened to destroy her. Tina has found solace is sharing her internationally recognized story with others in her series, “Divorcing a Narcissist.” She has dedicated her life to advocacy and consulting with others facing the same battles. In her new book, “Rebuilding After the Storm,” Tina takes her readers through the steps to rebuild their lives and thrive post-narcissist. Dr. Craig Malkin, psychology instructor at Harvard Medical School states, “If you need to start over, this is the woman you want holding your hand through the process.”

Best known for her riveting performance as "Eva" in the hit movie, Freedom Writers, starring Hilary Swank, April Hernandez Castillo was living the Hollywood dream. However, behind the glitz and glamor was a woman dealing secretly with a traumatic past.From growing up in the tough streets of the Bronx during the Crack Epidemic Era, to being in an abusive relationship as a teenager, to almost taking her own life, April's future looked bleak.Embracing Me is April's inspirational story of resilience, forgiveness, and overcoming adversity.This heartfelt yet witty memoir explores April's story of standing up against life's many challenges with strength, perseverance, and faith. Journey with April as she takes us behind-the-scenes to some of the most intimate parts of her life, and learn from the wisdom she obtained along the way.

In “A Place for Starr,” a courageous young girl tells the story of how she and her brother escape a scary home life and then how their family journeys to a peaceful, hopeful future. This book is created with love as a therapeutic tool. We hope it will be read by anyone and everyone, so they may better understand the experience of family violence. People of all ages will be able to appreciate the beautiful art, memorable story, and enduring message of hope.

From the renowned psychologist who introduced the world to “growth mindset” comes this updated edition of the million-copy bestseller—featuring transformative insights into redefining success, building lifelong resilience, and supercharging self-improvement.“Through clever research studies and engaging writing, Dweck illuminates how our beliefs about our capabilities exert tremendous influence on how we learn and which paths we take in life.”—Bill Gates, GatesNotes“It’s not always the people who start out the smartest who end up the smartest.”After decades of research, world-renowned Stanford University psychologist Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D., discovered a simple but groundbreaking idea: the power of mindset. In this brilliant book, she shows how success in school, work, sports, the arts, and almost every area of human endeavor can be dramatically influenced by how we think about our talents and abilities. People with a fixed mindset—those who believe that abilities are fixed—are less likely to flourish than those with a growth mindset—those who believe that abilities can be developed. Mindset reveals how great parents, teachers, managers, and athletes can put this idea to use to foster outstanding accomplishment.In this edition, Dweck offers new insights into her now famous and broadly embraced concept. She introduces a phenomenon she calls false growth mindset and guides people toward adopting a deeper, truer growth mindset. She also expands the mindset concept beyond the individual, applying it to the cultures of groups and organizations. With the right mindset, you can motivate those you lead, teach, and love—to transform their lives and your own.

Library Journal Self-Help BestsellerWinner of the 2023 National Indie Excellence Award in African American NonfictionSilver Winner of the 2023 Nautilus Book AwardA revealing look at why domestic violence victims stay with their abusers…and how they can ultimately leave. And survive.One Saturday morning, Gooden is woken up by her husband shoving her off the bed for no discernible reason.Despite her quick thinking and even quicker footsteps, her husband catches her, his sudden anger inexplicable. No words are exchanged. He begins to strangle her as he has done many times before.With unflinching vulnerability, Gooden outlines in painstaking detail what she had to do to walk away and how others can use her experiences to escape their own abuse, from skimming the grocery money, to squirreling away personal belongings, to navigating a domestic violence shelter. She offers strategies for overcoming the barriers survivors often face, such as money, housing, overcritical social circles, or, most powerfully: love. Uniquely compassionate when it comes to the heartbreak of still loving one’s abuser, Gooden shares how she transformed and extended this love outward, using her story to encourage others to choose themselves. The voice and fire behind #WhyIStayed, Bev Gooden is exceptionally positioned to explore the many reasons victims stay in abusive relationships, and how they can muster the resources and motivation to leave.Surviving is unlike any memoir of survivorship, given its nuance, compassion, and candor. Above all, it is an exquisitely powerful testament to Gooden’s healing, survivorship, and dedication to helping others do the same.

"Propulsive . . . . Good books sometimes cut to the bone, and this one feels like a scythe." —The New York Times Book Review"This wise, brilliant novel is so special, so overflowing with honesty and love—about motherhood, sisterhood, what it’s like to be a woman—that every paragraph feels like an epiphany. Hanna Halperin knows the fierce love that can exist especially among broken things. Something Wild moved me deeply."—Glennon Doyle, #1 New York Times bestselling author of UntamedA searing novel about the love and contradictions of sisterhood, the intoxicating desires of adolescence, and the traumas that trap mothers and daughters in cycles of violenceOne weekend, sisters Tanya and Nessa Bloom pause their respective adult lives and travel to the Boston suburbs to help their mother pack up and move out of their childhood home. For the first time since they were teenagers sharing a bunk bed over a decade ago, they find themselves in the place where long-kept secrets were born, where jealousy, comfort, anger, forgiveness, and repulsion coexist with the fiercest love and loyalty. What they don't expect is for their visit to expose a new, horrifying truth: their mother, Lorraine, is in a violent relationship.As Tanya urges Lorraine to get a restraining order, Nessa struggles to reconcile her fondness for their stepfather with his capacity for brutality. Their differing responses to the abuse bring up the sisters' shared secret—a traumatic, unspoken experience from their adolescence has shaped their lives, their sense of selves, and their relationship with each other and the men in their life. In the midst of this family crisis, they have no choice but to reckon with the past and face each other in the present, in the hope that there's a way out of the violence so deeply ingrained in the Bloom family.Told in alternating perspectives that deftly interweave past and present, Something Wild is a magnetic, unflinching portrait of the bond between sisters, as well as a psychologically acute exploration of the legacy of divorce, the ways trauma reverberates over generations, and how it might be possible to overcome the past.

In all of the years that Rick Warren has been a pastor, the number one question he's asked is "Why can't I change?" We want to make changes, but we often feel stuck. Let God's Power to Change Your Life be the first step on your journey to getting out of your rut and back into God's wonderful purposes for your life.It's no pie-in-the-sky theory. It's what redemption is about, and it's founded on the resurrection power of Jesus himself. Drawing simple but powerful truths from the Bible, this book gives you practical guidance for specific types of change and empowers you to actually make lasting the changes that you're longing for.Power that cancels your past and sets you free to get on with life. Power to conquer your problems. Power to change. The first two chapters help you lay the foundations for change. Then, taking you inside the Scriptures, Warren gives you a closer look at the fruits of the spirit and the profound impact they can have on your life.In God's Power to Change Your Life, Warren gives you the tools and the encouragement you need to: Become a more joyful person Cultivate a peaceful life in this uptight world Be a kinder, more gracious individual Replace self-indulgence with self-control Experience what "the good life" is all aboutAs Warren reminds us, when you apply the truth of God's Word by the power of his Spirit, your life is sure to change.

A blazingly insightful, provocative study of violence against women from the peerless feminist critic.Why has violence, and especially violence against women, become so much more prominent and visible across the world? To explore this question, Jacqueline Rose tracks the multiple forms of today’s violence – historic and intimate, public and private – as they spread throughout our social fabric, offering a new, provocative account of violence in our time.From trans rights and #MeToo to the sexual harassment of migrant women, from the trial of Oscar Pistorius to domestic violence in lockdown, from the writing of Roxanne Gay to Hisham Mitar and Han Kang, she casts her net wide. What obscene pleasure in violence do so many male leaders of the Western world unleash in their supporters? Is violence always gendered and if so, always in the same way? What is required of the human mind when it grants itself permission to do violence?On Violence and On Violence Against Women is a timely and urgent agitation against injustice, a challenge to radical feminism and a meaningful call to action.

Fear may fill the world but does not have to fill your heart.Each sunrise seems to bring fresh reasons for fear. Layoffs at work. Slowdowns in the economy. Health scares. Division. Oversized and rude, fear herds us into the prison of our anxious minds and keeps us from the freedom Christ offers.New York Times bestselling author and pastor Max Lucado invites us to turn to faith, not fear, as our default reaction to the threats of life. In this book, Max will help you: Find freedom from the fear of insignificance. Take comfort that the Lord will never leave your side. Unleash your worries and become filled with peace.Today, learn to trust more and fear less.

Many women are living lives far less than they deserve because they never learned how to love themselves. Loving yourself first is the secret to being happy, finding true love, and becoming a confident woman because you teach others how to treat you. If you've ever done love wrong, married or single, this book is for you. In Love Yourself First, you'll learn how to: Heal from the past, teach others to love you by loving yourself, choose relationships that compliment your future, use the "3 A's of Healing", practice self-love every day.

#SheWins 2 is an award-winning book in the category of Women's Issues (Non-Fiction) in 2022 from prestigious Next Generation Indie Books Awards.Domestic abuse thrives in secrecy and attempts to crush the spirit of its victims. But not all victims remain defeated. Hearing the stories of those who survived and triumphed can be a lifeline to those still trapped in abusive relationships — and an inspiration to us all.The response to Alisa Divine’s first book, #SheWins, was moving and powerful. The book earned acclaim as an Award-winner in 2020 from the prestigious Next Generation Indie Book Awards. And more women wanted to share their stories.#SheWins 2 follows the same format as Alisa’s first book. Each chapter begins with black and white portraits depicting the emotion of abuse. Each chapter ends with victory and full-color portraits to celebrate the victims’ irrepressible spirits. Despite the atrocities the women suffered, they insisted on perseverance and overcame.To end domestic abuse, we have to expose it, shed light on it. Together — we must take responsibility, open the conversation, and provide education and resources. Together — we can encourage more women to stand up, speak out and get the help they need to survive, heal and thrive.

A NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER"Know My Name is a gut-punch, and in the end, somehow, also blessedly hopeful."--Washington PostUniversally acclaimed, rapturously reviewed, and an instant New York Times bestseller, Chanel Miller's breathtaking memoir "gives readers the privilege of knowing her not just as Emily Doe, but as Chanel Miller the writer, the artist, the survivor, the fighter." (The Wrap). Her story of trauma and transcendence illuminates a culture biased to protect perpetrators, indicting a criminal justice system designed to fail the most vulnerable, and, ultimately, shining with the courage required to move through suffering and live a full and beautiful life.Know My Name will forever transform the way we think about sexual assault, challenging our beliefs about what is acceptable and speaking truth to the tumultuous reality of healing. Entwining pain, resilience, and humor, this memoir will stand as a modern classic.